A few years back a mutual (single) friend of mine and DH's confessed that he was really quite attracted to me and wanted to sleep with me. This was on a weekend away with a big group of us staying in the same house. We'd all had quite a lot to drink and me and friend were the only ones still up. Although I found him quite attractive, I told him that I loved my husband and I couldn't take him up on his offer. I told DH about it a couple of days later and he was very surprisingly calm about it all. He didn't let on to friend he knew what had been said.
A few months after that, DH suggested that we be more open with our relationship and he asked if I was still attracted to friend. I said that I was, but since that weekend away neither myself or friend had talked about what had been said. About a year later my DH text our friend from my phone as me, basically telling him that I was still attracted to him. During all this time, we had been in very frequent contact (the whole group on the original weekend) via an online programme like Skype, as we all live quite a way from each other. Friend had remained single and also was flirty on occasion with me. After this text he completely ignored me and went no contact. He then pretty much extracted himself from our group and very infrequently speaks to one friend. Our group of friends that he is in doesn't meet very often, so we'd just chat online during the week. Due to commitments of various friends this was happening less and less anyway, so his silence hasn't been so noticeable. No one knows why he's gone silent apart from me and DH.
It's been about 10 months since he went no contact and I know it sounds quite ridiculous but I miss talking to him. Even though I found him attractive I really cared for him as a friend too and I was really upset when he just cut me out of his life. At the time I was furious with DH for texting friend from my phone. DH said that he wanted to let friend know I was available in a sense, because DH and I had agreed to be more open and DH wanted me to sleep with friend if the opportunity was there still. I was agree that DH had cost not just me but our group a friend. DH apologised to me, but I find myself still annoyed with him these many months later. I didn't tell our friend that it wasn't me who text him, I just apologised to him via text and asked him to ignore the first text message. Obviously he didn't reply to either text and sometimes I wonder why he just went instantly no contact.
The one friend he does still talk to every now and again mentioned him in general conversation this week and it brought it all back. It'd be stupid to try and recoonect with friend wouldn't it? (On a purely platonic level of course!)