DH finds me physically repulsive

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been married 25 years. My DH is super fit and has a real loathing of "fat" people. I was a size 10/12 when we married. After 2 children quickly got back to size 12. fast forward 20 years... am an ample and chubby size 14 and DH finds my size physically repulsive. We have always been really close but now I just feel like a failure.. .and the more I get stressed out about my size, and the more he mentions it, the more I comfort eat/drink... vicious circle. Not really sure why I'm posting, it's between me and him really, feel it's his problem more than mine, just feeling a bit shit and wanted to rant.

Just talk to him. And if the 'he' in your name is him, nohebloodyisnt!

Im doing the SW plan and its bloody expensive.

In a lot of cases especially in this economic climate obesity is being caused by poverty.

He isn't right, he's a horrible person. He might have a beautiful body but he has a stinking mess of a soul.

The problem is not size or weight, it's the way we're built (men and women both, to be brutally frank, and pregnancy makes it worse): our natural functions of defecating, urinating, vomiting, farting, burping, diarrhoea, illness, etc.
Only after marriage do most men seem to wake up to reality (which most unmarried women try to very hard to hide, let's be honest) and it often turns them off having close physical contact with their partners unless there's some kind of compensating mechanism in place, eg. emotional or psychological dependency, etc. It's up to you!

He's a dick. Kick him to the curb.

ZOMBIE THREAD

Do you want to lose weight and get fit ?

It doesnt have to be cardio. Cardio will help lose weight - but it wont necessarily tone muscle.

Try lifting weights, and you will soon start to develop muscle tone. It's also proven to be better than cardio at shifting the pounds. Treat like a love hate situation - take it out on the weights. You will become addicted - I did it.

It may not help your relationship - but it will help your state of mind.