Friends put me in difficult position

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Sorry for the long post.......
A couple of months ago my best friend told me she was cheating on her husband. I told her if she wanted someone new then to leave her husband but don't cheat. She decided that she loves her dh so she ended it with the (really hot) other man.
She's been having trouble getting pregnant and each time lost the baby at about 8 Weeks.
She's just told me that after leaving the other man they had one more "session" and she's now 11 Weeks pregnant. It's defiantly the other guys. She plans to keep her dh away from the 12 week scan as apparently they'll know conception dates. But she has told them the last date her and her dh were together.
Her dh hasn't got a clue she was cheating!
my dp is best friends with her dh! I see him a couple of times a week. What do I do? She has no intentions of saying anything about what she did or the baby. The other guy lives in the area too and is a lovely guy, what if he sees her walking about with a bump?
How I handle this could effect my relationship too - if I keep her secret and she later confesses i'm the bad one for condoning it! But if I say something it's ripping a family apart her dh is so excited. But I can't see how she can keep it a secret - won't it show in scans that her dates are off by just over 3 Weeks?
She's now taking about making me the God mother! seeing her pregnant is hard enough, I've had 4 MC and am also pregnant (7 Weeks) but feel like I'll loose this one too.
I don't want to loose her, i'm happy she's having a baby, she'll make a great mother, but I don't want to be in the middle of her mess!
She just says she's thinking of it as sperm donation and it's her dh baby really....her Dh wont see it that way though!
Do I say anything? Keep her secret? Move far away from her and pretend I know nothing?!

Crikey!

Most still stick to the fundamental rules. You can divorce but you then can't make your communion once it's happened which is a very important part of the religion.

She's texted saying she's sorry.
I've replied -
I don't understand why you've constantly lied to me. I'm sorry but this is the end of our friendship. Your dh is welcome in my home but I would appreciate it if you stayed away from me and my dp.
How does that sound?

It sounds great I think. You have made your feelings clear and it is short & to the point. I'm really sorry this has happened, it's a horrid situation.

Perfect reply. I am completely shocked by your posts this eve and really sorry your 'friend' has turned out to be a bad 'un. So pleased you spoked to DH and he called his friend over. It is really really sad that his religion means he won't leave her - what a miserable way to live

I've decided to look at her problems as a mental illness. I don't know if it is but I doubt any person would choose to behave like she has. I still feel angry but maybe something in the past happened to make her feel lying was the only way to get attention.

Oh God she has some real issues doesn't she, glad you sorted it out for yourself though.

If I was in your situation I'd definitely tell my dp because I know I trust him enough and he would help me decide what to do. I do not think you should tell the lover. That's up to her. Stay out of it, but tell her you're going to tell dp so she has the chance to confess first if she wants. That's pretty bad of her to burden you with this. I would definitely distance myself as much as possible. Good luck and wishing you a healthy pregnancy

She's nuts, her DH knows how nuts she is (with a focus on copying you) and has never said anything vaguely resembling a warning even though he's not keen on her and would divorce her if only they weren't Catholic? Steer well clear of the pair of them.

Jesus Christ OP!
She's unhinged and should really seek some help. I feel sorry for her DH.

It's awful what she's done and the lies she's told you when you were going through your own nightmares.
Fwiw though - you and your dh sound like really lovely people, you done the right thing in confiding in your dh then together telling hers.
Well done.

sorry I just read the rest of this thread and realised I missed half of it! my bad. she sounds like a freak then!

just caught up on the rest of the thread. I almost cried reading what she has put you through. I can't imagine how betrayed you're all feeling. It does sound like a mental illness, that you were drawn into it by being a good friend. Hopefully she leaves you alone now.

Good Lord! Thank goodness you told your dp! She would have been heaping the drama on to you for the rest of your life.

Just focus on your new life now. What a lucky escape. You will make lots of new friends when you have your baby.

What the actual fuck!!!!

Drama Llama and complusive liar.

So cruel to watch your tears of your miscarriages, and then suddenly fake her own. Thats just cruel.

Personally I think you've got to do something - tell someone, give her an ultimatum, tell her you are going to tell your partner.

A child is going to be born not knowing who its real father is and will be brought up by another man who thinks the child is his. The child is being lied to, the real father is being lied to, and her husband is being lied to. But you know the truth?

Imagine what a strain that is going to be for you as the child grows. Every time you see the little one, every time you see your friend's husband, every time you see the guy down the gym.

Tell her you can't carry a secret like that around with you.

Oops - sorry for my reply - just read back through the thread and see it's all done and dusted!

I'm half asleep is my excuse.

Well done OP! You did the right thing.