Finally its over, but how to get him out?

[NachoAddict]

I have been considering ending ny relationship for awhile. I have a couple of threads about my partner and after having the same old row again this morning I have decided I can't do it any more.

The problem I have got is that I know he will refuse to leave. He wont be aggressive or threatening, he will just refuse to go.

The house is rented, tenancy agreement is in my name only. I have lived there for 4 years, him two and a half. I have three children, one of which is his.

Me leaving is nit an option. He has his mum who he can stay with although he says he would rather sleep on the street. He also has friends he could stay with.

How do I make him leave amicably?

I am at work so there may be delays in my replies but I will answer all questions as quickly as I can.

Thanks again for the support, quick update.

He came home from work, I ignored him but without making an atmosphere in front of the kids.

As I was putting youngest Ds up to bed he went out and didn't come back until I was in bed. He did sleep in the sofa though so he knows I'm not happy.

Of course when we got up this morning the kids were about so no chance to talk to him again.

So back to square one.

It's the weekend soon and you can put your plan into action.
Keep strong and focussed until then.
No cooking, shopping, cleaning etc.. for him from now on either.

I can't text as he doesn't have a mobile phone. I can leave a note, not sure where to put it so he will see it but the dc won't but I am sure I can think of something.

I can feel my resolve waning as my anger dissolves but if I don't follow through this time we will be stuck in this never ending cycle.

I am not happy with him in general, lazy, selfish, spoilt, but all small things I can put up with so as nit to tock the boat but there is one argument we keep having about his mum that neither of us will ever back down about. I can't keep having the same argument over and over again. Plus he is so nasty. He picks something I am insecure about to insult me on. So he calls me a fat bitch even though I weigh 8st 3lb I have a mummy tummy that I hate and he uses it against me.

So you can add "bully" to his list of attributes then.

Good luck with your plan and if you feel your resolve weakening just come back and read your last post.

OMG - he call you a fat bitch!
You need to keep the anger.
Get it back.
He is a nasty bully.

And why doesn't he have a mobile phone?
I know it's not a necessity but it seems odd in this day and age, unless he is 70!

Because if he has no phone me or his ex can't contact him so basically he can come and go as he pleases. The official line is that it has broken. We have several unbroken old phones hanging around if he was interested on having one.

does he have email?

does he work? send him a letter addressed to him at his work.

Just saying "Our relationship is over, you need to leave by xx day at cxx .

If you do not leave I will put in place arrangements to have you removed.

I would like to propose contact arrangements with dd as folows ; xx day form xxtime to xxtime; xxday from xx time to xxtime...weetc "

time.

he cant come and go as he pleases.
so if he chooses not to get a mobile then it will be tricky..but his choice - how old is your dc? old enough to have a mobile and/or use a phone in an emergency?

He works in a manual job but I could write him a letter and leave it in an envelope at home. That's a good plan actually.

Ds is not quite two so no phone. I hadn't even thought about that though, if he is taking ds for contact then I will want to ne able to phone him wont I.