how to cope with seeing the other woman every day at school?

[marriageisatrainwreck]

Has anyone any experience of how to deal with this. I only found out at weekend that my "d" h has been having an affair for basicqlly the whole of my last pregnancy with son now aged 3 months. He is devasted (? That hes been found out) and ive obviously kicked him out whilst I think things through. He wants to come back and make a go of things... was feeling stressed... escapism etc etc. I dont know what im going to do and he has moved out
Her child is in the same class as one of our children and it is a very small village school. Children know basics of whats happened and who it was with ( we had to tell them as gossip will be rife and they know the ow quite well). Ive told lots of my friends who are also mums at school.
How the actual fuck am I goingm to cope with seeing her every day????? Im not going to shout and scream jeremy kyle style but how do I keep my cool?

And I know h and possibly ow know I post on mumsnet whixh ive why ive tried to hide my post here, but if u r reading theis h or ow you are both complete skanks.

Reading your post the only one "using children as a weapon bollox", is him.

He wants an excuse to go to school and see OW when he is dropping off and picking up your older child.

Find childcare just because his family have been used in the past doesn't mean it has to continue. He shouldn't be the on deciding what happens now with you and your dc that should be you.

Op-think only about yourself and dcs at the moment.

I'm wondering exactly why he told you.

Was he forced to tell you, before she did?

Or did he think by telling you he would off load his guilt and transfer it to you, therefore minimising his actions.

Either way it is awful for you.

Please speak to your Rl friends and family for support, and posting on here as there are lots of very wise posters.

He's the one who cheated on you, not her. He will do it again after all what consequences are there?

Had exactly the same situation but 15 years ago! My son was at last year of junior school and the OW decided to send her child to the same school as him. I studiously avoided her but that year my poor boy was very unwell and in hospital a lot . She joined the PTA ( only for a year ) to organise a big fundraiser and has taken every opportunity to try and be around me she can . She still tries to be friendly with people I'm friendly with etc and this week she started following me on Instagram ( she's a narcarcissistic nut!) anyway we weren't even in the same year so it was fine and by the time her son got to secondary school mine was old enough to take himself too and from school. Keep your dignity it's all you've got. I hope yours is just not a special type of coke head nutter like mine ! Good luck it passes oh and get rid of the DH he sounds an arsehole like mine was!

Hold on to the fact that the OW will be even more apprehensive than you are about meeting. After all, it is she who has wronged you, and not the other way around, so she will be shitting herself when she sees you.

Also, it sounds as though she has behaved very unprofessionally/unethically if she was caring for your child in some kind of professional capacity, i.e., TA or something; surely she has breached some code of conduct by having an affair with the father of one of her charges. She should be worrying about her job.

Couldn't read and run. Chin up x