Hello all, i have lurked on here for past few weeks and wondered if you would care to give your helpful advice on my current situation. married for 6 years together 10 and have a 3 yr old. Husband works in emergency services working 7 different shifts the majority are at night leaving me and little one to our own devices for much of the time as he will be asleep in the day. We only spend a few days together as a family due to his shifts and me working 4 days per week. He never takes time off and even when he is home he is constantly checking works phone, on laptop etc. I have been getting pretty sick of us coming second all the time, spending all our weekends with other people and their families, his family have never looked after our toddler once in 3 years..on top of that the last time we had sex was 4 years ago when little boy was conceived..and was about 3 years before that so i total only had sex handful of times in past 7 years, this is not my choice and as far as i am aware its a stress thing not a physical thing. We have been rowing pretty much every day for about 6 months +, christmas and new year were awful but decidd to stick it out for sake of son but am sick of trying when he is blatantly not. I have been to a solicitor for free consultation to see where i stand but feel paralysed - are the above reasons enough to end a marriage, i am very unhappy and so is he and i am sure our son is picking up on this but am i being selfish and should i stick with it for our son to have the happy childhood i had growi g up? Sorry for long windedness. He has been divdorced before and states categorically that he will not go to relate. I definitely dont think he is having an affair as he is far too lazy for even that! :)