Link to DM 'advice' on fixing relationships after affairs...so bad it's funny!

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advice on how to get your relationship back after affairs

You can tell it was written by a man, how could the hurt party come out of this with any dignity left??! You need to change, don't stop him seeing the other woman, let them move in together, improve your sexual techniques... this is so absolutely awful it is hilariously funny.

The comments think it's rubbish too. It would horrific to have marriage counseling with someone like the author, completely soul destroying.

Even better - the advice in one of the comments-

"Ladies, make sure your man never leaves the house hungry or horny and you will have no problems ever. That's all you have to do. Funny how so many women consider this an outrageous proposition."

must remember that.

"Want to win back a cheating husband?"

Um, no.

"women have been given more permission to enjoy sex, rather than simply doing it for men"

Blood and sand.

Win?? [Hmm]

God what a disgusting article.

The only useful bit of information in this article is the "Six types of women who could kill your marriage" figure. As long as you replace the caption with "the six types of excuses cheaters use", it's spot on.

I had to check the date to make sure it wasn't an April Fool piece. Disturbingly, it isn't...

Bloody hell! Well, that puts me off using a relationship counsellor should we ever need one!

Awful!

The section on sex basically says "yes I know men can't rape their wives anymore but remember if you do try to say no to sex your husband will probably look for another available hole cheat." Anyone who thinks feminism isn't necessary should read this. The misogyny isn't even hidden.

Holy f##k what planet is that person on? Any relation to katie Hopkins, she's another one that comes out with a pile of stinking shite too ... Ho hum!

this guy is a marriage councillor?!? People actually pay him to sprout this rubbish?

Awaiting the next installment of "how to win back your women" lmao

Yes I wonder what the advice would be to men with cheating wives? Not the same I'm guessing.

cailindana no I'm sure that would be our fault also! we are undoubtedly the route of all problems lol

What a crock of shite.

There was one part I agreed with. (Don't faint folks...)

"Walking on eggshells just makes your husband irritated. When you back down, he loses all respect"

However, I would extend the definition of 'backing down' to 'taking back a cheat'... Vicious circle.

good grief. no wonder people come on here and say 'we tried relationship counselling but it didn't work' - they were probably unlucky enough to come across a 'counsellor' like this

(of course there are other reasons why relationship counselling wouldn't work, aside from a useless counsellor)

where do they find these people?

Oh, I bet he's cheated. Loads. What a bell-end.

Anyone going to buy his book?

I love the bit where he advises that you meet the other woman, but remember "you're not two friends meeting up for coffee so put a time limit on it"!

I can imagine getting so carried away chinwagging about east Enders that you forget all about the fact that she's been shagging your husband.

What a dick.

Haven't read the book but I posted this on the other thread, mainly cos I think there is another perspective....

Erm... the title explains it. If you want to win back a husband that has cheated, is cheating, has acknowledged he is cheating, may have moved in with other woman... IF.

So the advice is, as far as I can see, really appropriate. Why beg him to come back, make a lot of changes in his behaviour, if you won't make any changes in yours? He won't want to come back to the same old resentful, not right home he has already left once. Everything has to be examined and changed, if you want to win him back

As for the have sex when you don't want to, that is a no brainer. You don't want to have sex because he has cheated, the OW will be all over him and in your head too. So the first time you really won't want to, but you will HAVE to if you want to win him back - if you don't / can't then the relationship is over and you don't want to win him back.

If you don't want to win him back then the whole piece is of no use to you! Most of the previous responses are from the (probably wholly sensible women) who would never want to win that kind of prize anyway. But some women do!