Help with text to finally end relationship please?

[endlessdrudgery]

I am feeling very angry, hurt and let down. Have just written a fantasy text to my stbxp. Does the following seem a little harsh? Opinions and suggestions please! (sort of lightheartedish)

'Ok so now I get it - you don't actually give a toss about me. It's what I suspected but today has confirmed all my doubts. Or perhaps this is my 'punishment' for not finding the crumbs of affection you give me enough? Even after everything you couldn't even bring yourself to say 'I love you' last night. Don't bother contacting me again (not that you would bother). I can do so much better, you sad emotionally stunted loser.'

If you ever get the chance to have a relationship again I would suggest;
A: The occasional compliment
B: Expressing some affection
C: Some foreplay

I'd definitely use Bof's suggestion.

It is direct and devil may care Nowt emotionally invested and will leave him flummoxed with his pride well and truly dented at your blaze attitude.

You're going to end a three year relationship by text? Extraordinary.

It sounds like they've already had The Big Row, to be fair, Holla.

Yes we've had the talk etc. This is a final straw situation.

Phone is okay surely. Maybe not. I suppose a quick coffee and an even quicker goodbye. Not sure. Am so out of touch. Text seems wrong though.

Unless of course there are very serious reasons. But if it was that - violence or something like that - I think I would just go non contact.

Well maybe spineless but I was in a car accident today and i needed him and he hasn't even responded to my call or text so what would you do?

I am ok - just very shaken up.

HowContrayMary

"Clearly you've spread for him"?? Is that a typo/auto correct?

What a revolting post, HowContraryMary! Is that how you talk in real life?

Oh, do fuck off contrary

Actually op, you could use my above comment to contrary as your txt.
Hope your ok after your accident.

"Clearly you have spread for him"
You what? Ugh.

Agree with the others OP - keep it short and simple, and drama and whinge free.
Head up and shoulders back now. He is dismissed.

"Clearly you've spread for him"

Huh ?

OP, I do think you should call him. A quick moment to say "I have decided this isn't working for me, so I am ending it with no further discussion to be had. Goodbye"

Perhaps she fell into making his packed lunches?

You say you've had The Talk and today's incident was the last straw.

Why not wait until morning to get what you want to say clear.

After an accident there is often a delayed reaction. I hope you are all right is there someone you could stay with if you are worried you might have hurt yoursel?

I did sometimes do toast for him in the morning .

Good advice. Save it for the morning when you are less impassioned.

Pictish

Thanks donkeys but I really am ok. I think I was in a bit of shock earlier but fine now.

I don't see anything wrong with ending by text when you've been badly let down. When I was in a relationship with an abusive arsehole, I tried to end it to his face so many times, as that's the decent thing to do, right? But he twisted and manipulated me and it took years to get away from him. I should have just ended it by text, before I was too far in.

This guy sounds like an arse, you've already had the row, why not just send a text?

I think you should write down a fantasy text for your own use, as long and detailed as you like - but you're not going to send this one. This one is just to make you feel better.

The one you should send, as others have suggested, should be really short and emotionless. It has more impact and if you're serious about it being over, there has to be no possible come-back.

Something like this...

'This isn't working for me anymore. I'm out of this completely and don't wish to see you again. Please delete my number from your phone.'