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Original poster

trying not to be rude

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reallyembarrassedbut · 16/03/2004 17:31

ok, this isn't a pervy thing, and i'm not a new person, just hiding behind another name, and if you know who i am, and it's that obious i'm sorry, just ignore this.

deep breath

My DW and i don't have a physical side to our relationship, for whatever reason, and i have been trying not to give in to the temptation to, erm, please myself, because i feel it would really piss her off, and while i wouldn't exactly tell her, i don't like the idea of hiding anything from her -

would it be horrid of me to just do it, and hide it from her

would it be forgiveable if, for whatever reason she found outor should i just be ashamed of myself?

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twiglett · 16/03/2004 17:33

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suzywong · 16/03/2004 17:33

It's your body to do with as you wish, it's a natural, normal adult function.
As long as you are discreet and neat, go at it to your heart's content.

smellymelly · 16/03/2004 17:41

Us women expect it really, it is perfectly normal.

I'd rather my DP did that, then did it with someone else!!!!

Enjoy yourself.....

smellymelly · 16/03/2004 17:42

sorry meant to read ....than did it with someone else!!!!

ooops....

CountessDracula · 16/03/2004 17:43

If I were your wife I would be more worried if you didn't! You've got to keep your hand in (so to speak!) for when your sex life revives!

Twinkie · 16/03/2004 17:46

Goodness your not DL are you???

CountessDracula · 16/03/2004 17:58

can't imagine DL worrying about this tbh!

Beetybeetybangbang · 16/03/2004 17:58

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suzywong · 16/03/2004 17:59

Twinkie, that's an awful thing to say to anyone. Shame

fio2 · 16/03/2004 18:03

nothing wwrong with it

but PMSL at smellymelly's mix up with then and than

smellymelly · 16/03/2004 18:07

What does PMSL mean????

fio2 · 16/03/2004 18:10

pissing myself laughing

smellymelly · 16/03/2004 18:14

Yeah i did f**k up with that one!!!!!

Ha Ha

CountessDracula · 16/03/2004 18:15

So reallyembarrasedbut what are you going to do?

smellymelly · 16/03/2004 18:18

shhhhh! He's busy!

fio2 · 16/03/2004 18:19

he! he! he! and do you REALLY want to know CD???????

Beetybeetybangbang · 16/03/2004 18:19

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aloha · 16/03/2004 18:20

Do it and don't even mention it. You don't tell her how many times you went to the loo at work do you? Or how often you breathe in and out. I doubt she will want to know the details - too much information IMO.

spacemonkey · 16/03/2004 18:21

Nothing wrong with it even if you and dw did have a physical side to your relationship. Perfectly normal. Don't worry!

Janstar · 16/03/2004 18:23

Of course you can do it if you want. I don't see how that betrays her in any way. The only reason I would be cross with my dh for doing the same would be if I wanted sex with him and he refused.

lou33 · 16/03/2004 18:42

Perfectly normal thing to do imo.

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reallyembarrassedbut · 16/03/2004 22:54

I have to wonder what "DL" means....

erm, Beety we don't have a physical relationship, well, because i'm pretty unnatractive to her.

hey ho.

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spacemonkey · 16/03/2004 22:58

reallyembarrassedbut - DL refers to an excommunicated mumsnetter

we know you're not him though!

Original poster
reallyembarrassedbut · 16/03/2004 23:00

why, does he not...er, you know what?

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lou33 · 16/03/2004 23:10

I'm sure he does , but he was a huge attention seeker, and often downright rude. You definitely aren't him tho.