trying not to be rude

[reallyembarrassedbut]

ok, this isn't a pervy thing, and i'm not a new person, just hiding behind another name, and if you know who i am, and it's that obious i'm sorry, just ignore this.

deep breath

My DW and i don't have a physical side to our relationship, for whatever reason, and i have been trying not to give in to the temptation to, erm, please myself, because i feel it would really piss her off, and while i wouldn't exactly tell her, i don't like the idea of hiding anything from her -

would it be horrid of me to just do it, and hide it from her

would it be forgiveable if, for whatever reason she found outor should i just be ashamed of myself?

erm, ok.

we're all attention seekers - and Countess (cute name by the way) our sex life is dead dead dead i'm afraid.

am tempted to say that he was a bit of a wanker but of course that's not true

REB why is it dead? Can it not be re-kindled? Surely there must be some hope.

simple - our home life is a bit frantic and dfficult, and we're both always exhausted, and she's sort of fallen out of love with me.

it's taken a very very long time for me to realise, but im not what she wants.

heartbreaking, and crushing, but nothing can be done, so i've stopped moaning about it, she doesn't love me, she doesn't fancy me, and wh should she.

can we talk about something else?

He took attention seeking to a whole new level reb. Trust us on this one!

Hmmm. I wouldn't want to carry on with a relationship that was loveless myself.

If you are interested there is a thread from the woman's perspective here

You may be surprised at the responses.

maybe i should carry on being the really embarrassed guy - you know i thought about asking this question on a guys board... then i woke up - can you imagine the responses i would have gotten.....(rolls eyes)

Hi REB,

I have to ask you why, if there is so little positive warm feelings left between your DW and you do you feel guilty in personal relief. It is not like you are being unfaithful with someone else. and also....

Why dont you ask her if she masterbates? You may be suprised at the answer.

All in all it sounds like you still hope that there is still a chance for you both in which case i would suggest that we all start trying to give you advice on how you may be able to rekindle or reignite a new flame between the two of you. what do you think girls?

REB did you read the other thread?

other thread?

am i being dim?

Left you a link to it on my 11:24:51 msg last night

I was being dim, sorry

that sounds rather different, i think, but utterly tragic.

Do you mean there are people who don't do it?
Weird, imo, to even need to ask. Like aloha said, you go to the toilet, so why would masterbation need to be explained?

sorry reallyembarrassed, didn't mean to imply you were weired. I just always assumed that everybody masterbates, like scratching an itch. I thought everyone knew everyone did it, etc etc ....................

go do it, mmy dh exercises regularly I quite like it!