Is it ever ok to sleep with a colleague?

[JetSetWilly]

I imagine most people will say no.. Why? Consenting adults, single (obviously), keep it professional

Does it always turn to shit?

Can he be trusted to be discrete? A friend of mine slept with a colleague and when she ended things went on the spread vicious gossip about her said she was desperate, unhygienic and boring in bed.

Luckily he sent the messages using his work e-mail account, so when she made her complaint her bosses could access it.

He was fired for gross misconduct, but her colleagues felt she was in the wrong and it must of been sent partly true. And even so he was just having a laugh.

She left soon after.

for me it would depend on if he can get me huge amounts of stationery for free. i'm kidding. it'd be a yes regardless

It is clearly important not to have sex with a work colleague who is also a wanker.. ...

I fully expect mine to want to move on at some point and have a 'proper' relationship with someone else. I have small children etc and massively bruised after my marriage ended so only looking for fun and intimacy. We happily spend the night in having dinner and a movie, it's not just shagging, but it isn't a relationship either. However, there is mutual respect.

Spent 8 months f**king a colleague about 5 years ago.
We were good friends and still are. No emotional attachment, it was just sex for both of us and suited. Noone knew and it kept it exciting.
I met someone else so it stopped as was always agreed.
Hes still a great friend

That's an interesting use of apostrophes fuckertyfuckfuck

...erm... Asterisks not apostrophes.

Honestly so similar Jayho. Tell me bigger orf if you want but how old is he?

That's what I would like fuckerty

Yes he can be trusted to be discrete (I think) it's in nobody's interests to let anybody know-he's already been asked if anything is going on and rubbished it off. He only walked me home and it was entirely innocent (at the time). But I do take on board what someone else said up thread that actually it will probably never be kept a secret no matter how hard we try?

I slept with a colleague about 100 years ago. We're still together.

We tried to keep it a secret for a while - it didn't really work. But other colleagues were fine with it - it wasn't a problem. I'd say the only downside is that we probably spent way too much time talking about work - was easier when we went on to other separate jobs.

I did. We have been married for 12yrs and have 4DC.

In the beginning we thought we were being very secretive but word got out. He was in a more senior role to me and as relationships between colleagues in the roles we were in were not approved by management DH was moved to a different store.

This ended up being a promotion for him as there were no positions equal to his at the time so he had to take a step up. Yay! This didn't have a negative effect on his career either as he now works with the same people/management team but at a different much better company on the other side of the world!

DH is 7yrs younger than me.

I think you should go for it!

jet he's 38 so you can work out how old I am .

We also talk about work too much but we're both a bit obsessive and terrible gossips so it suits!

Probably not unless its a large firm and you don't work alongside each other.

I'm a bit younger than you Jayho so is he

Big firm different floors don't and won't ever work alongside each other. So should be ok if it goes tits up! Unsure how much effort I should put in though given he's quite a bit younger than me (thinking not a lot!)

I did.

I married him :)