How long did you wait before DTD?

[Bumblebeepie]

Ok, in past relationships I've jumped in far too quickly on this front. However, I've met someone I'm really keen on and for some reason I feel like I want to wait longer with him, I've never had this before. I just wondered if anyone else has had this strange phenomenon of liking someone so much you want to wait and make it really meaningful, and how long did you wait?

You can't 'make' a person change!

T he third date he'd asked me over for lunch and it felt right.

Ooooh memories.

Met him for about 10 minutes (his sister chatted me up, he didn't).

Met him again about a week later and very nearly broke my neck getting him into bed!

That was 29 years ago! 25th wedding anniversary later this year

Calm down noddy it was a typo. The rest of my post should've made that obvious. I meant "can't".

I am calm

There are no fixed rules, but the 3rd or 4th date seems to be normal.

A couple of hours for me too. Been together 12 years.

So everyone who was "just a couple of hours", or first date.....just out of interest.....how does that work? Get chatting & straight back to each others places? Car? Forgive me, I'm just intrigued!

We we're students, met on a drunken term. Had a dance, a snog and went back to mine.

*night, not term. Was end of term!

Three and a half years (2 of which we were engaged)! We were a bit old-fashioned! Been together 39 years.

With the latest bloke we've taken it slowly and it's been the best experience! I too have a history of jumping in far too quickly and regretting it.
First date - kissing, hint of a fee,l then goodnight.
Second - kisses on sofa, defo could have gone further.
Third - er...a bit further
Fourth- bingo! Whole experience has been a month or so and the most exciting time - lots of longing texts.... but the kissing and loving each others' company has made it amazing!

Ohhh JonSnow that has now got me thinking I need to take a very comfy blanket and a private spot for our picnic date! I'm loving that run down....that's so how I envisage things....thank you!

Picnic date. Are you in the UK it's freezing just now.

Ha ha.....yes in the south- UK weather is supposed to be nice next weekend.

In honesty, Bumble I have a horrible sexual history and have been single through choice (mostly) for ages. I have shit judgement. But this guy is different, and whereas I've been so desperate to jump in with a shag before to show how "hot" I am.....this time I've felt totally in control and had full knowledge that waiting was making it better for both of us! Plus, he seems to like me, and was equally happy to draw out the process.

It was a long time but I married him

Usually I wait about a month because the three date rule doesn't always work as men might leave after that (obv only my experience)

One month rule. Wait until you've both had a chance for feelings to develop.

Thank you ladies......JonSnow that is exactly how I feel about this one, he is so different, I totally empathise with you with the "want to show them how hot I am" because, well, I am .....but I don't get that feeling with him, we have connected on something so much more. Its like the sex would be a fabulous bonus to this great thing going on, like its secondary, I've never had this before, because I'm quite sexual. Its so refreshing.

5 mins. But quite a lot of communication before meeting in the flesh. Don't regret it I've got 6 years of celibacy to make up for.

Within hours of "getting together" i.e. kissing and admitting we liked each other after a few weeks of seeing each other about! Been together 11 years, married 1.

Prior to OH I never waited if I wanted to shag someone! Girls have needs too!

Absolutely MissH - It's such a myth that men "need" sex more than women.
Bumble It sounds brilliant! That kind of "click" doesn't happen often IME and it's worth enjoying every second

4 months in two relationships. One lasted a year. Another one is my DH now.

We were DTD as friends way before any romance was involved. I used to kick him out of my room after.