No it isn't medical (he has had testosterone levels checked) or work/stress related he just has no sex drive. We have been married 15 years and sex has always been very low priority for him and for years I threw myself at him and we managed a pretty normal if not mundane sex life.
The last 5 years it changed where he would reject me if I made any advances until I got the hint and just stopped trying. He says he loves me, our life is pretty good, he works extremely hard as do I, but, it's just not a marriage.
I have recently tried to get him to talk and realise how unhappy I am, I feel ugly, old and now the growing bitterness and resentment towards him is making me feel quite ill at time. He again reassures me that he loves me, sex just isn't important.
I now find myself wondering whether to leave and start again. I do love him and even thinking of leaving fills me with panic, but, can I live the rest of my life without sex? I don't think I can. Am I selfish? If I was a man and left my wife because of lack of sex I would be a twat wouldn't I?
It is a very lonely problem, there is no one in RL that I can talk to, I have stopped going out with a group friends as conversation always turns to how they are sick of their DH groping/pestering/needing sex (lighthearted) I sit with a fixed grin wanting to die or cry or scream at them that they don't know how lucky they are to be wanted. I tried once to speak to a close friend and all she could say was how lucky I was not to be pestered for sex and how she couldn't make a cup of tea without her DH kissing her neck.
Sorry for the ramble I just need to vent, I fell so isolated.