When we 1st met we were at it all the time, as the relationship went on his sex drive waned and mine didn't, but if I was lucky I'd get it every 6 weeks or so, as long as I instigated it (sometimes more, but this was the standard pattern). During pg we had sex 2ce - once when we didn't realise I was pg and 1ce to try to bring labour on when I was 2 weeks late - and now dd1 is 13 weeks old and I STILL haven't got any, I'm getting desperate but dh still not interested.
I'm already feeling less than sexy with my jelly-belly and stretch marks, but not having anything to look forward to is not helping!
We still snog + cuddle and he keeps telling me I'm sexy, but how can I believe it when he's always making excuses??
To top it all off, I've now accidentally found A LOT of porn on his mobile !.
I've tried making it clear that I'm up for it again, I'm taking the pill again (and making sure he knows), I've stocked up on condoms, I've tried running baths for when he comes home from work and have organised a romantic dinner to be ready for when he comes out and tried to give him massages. It's very hard to get him to take the bath and he now refuses point blank to let me massage him.
I know part of the problem is that I don't feel like I look very sexy at the moment, but I am trying to not think about that at the moment.
What do I do? I don't want to confront him about it as we had similar problem a few years ago and he said the pressure made it worse and he felt even less like having sex. The only reason things got better for a while was that we were trying for a bb (bb is NOT to fix relationship - EVERY other area is fab, we love each other, still snog, still talk and are best friends, we just don't seem to have sex any more).
Am really at a loss and don't know what I can do (short of having Serious surgery ) to get my DH interested in me again in that way.
Please help - has anyone had similar experiences or can anyone give advice??