I know this is a bit of an old chestnut, but I'd really like some advice on how to approach it. I've just seen an itinerary for a stag weekend that DP is going to in July. The groom is his best pal from uni, and the weekend is being organised by the groom's brother, who is a bit younger - not sure if that's relevant. The itinerary includes entry to a lap-dancing club, which I'm really not ok with. It's one of those package weekend things, so I guess that the organiser hasn't discussed the actual details/activities etc with the group, so I'm not leaping to accuse DP of actively suggesting lap-dancing or anything.
I know lots of people are fine with LD/strip clubs, but I'm really not one of them. Apart from the fact that I think they're tacky, on a personal level it makes me feel really unhappy to think of DP that close to a naked lady, I honestly can't see the difference between that and kissing some random in a club. He knows that I really don't like these places, but this issue hasn't come up before because he's not the sort of person who would choose to go to them, and nor are any of his friends - until now, apparently. But we're watching the Sopranos boxset at the mo, which features a strip club quite often, so it's come up in conversation and he knows I wouldn't like it if he went. Is that really controlling? It looks controlling written down, but I can't help how I feel - the thought of him having a lap dance makes me want to cry, I'm literally welling up just thinking about it.
Can anyone help me plan how I can approach this conversation without a) bursting into tears or b) coming across as a nagging harpy? Is it fair to ask him to not to go to that bit? Some perspective would be very useful please :(