update as I'm on my way to my new life with dds

[mmmmtoffee]

hi I had a post in dec about leaving exp. I ended up going to a refuge. the post was deleted as to manu identifying points were made.

well it has now been nearly 14weeks since I broke free.

I still have ss involvement and will do for a while yet but there is "no risks" and "no concerns". ss are involced through the past and the "unknowns"

I am still in the refuge and started my housing application.

dd1 is showing strange behaviour but im working with her about it amd starting a parenting course to help.

dd2 is a happy, cheeky little girl. she is so happy and accepts everything. she hardly cries and happy aslong as im near, there is a few people she will go to and is happy when im not around. anyone else talks to her she cries if im not near. (apart from dd1 friend dad as dd2 finds him hilarious and wont leave him alone)

both dds are growing well.

dd1 is going to her friends house for dinner tomorrow. we all went last time and this will bw the first time she has been alone. I have got to know the friends mum and she is only along the road from me so I could get her back ASAP if needed. so we have both made a friend and enjoying life.

life in a refuge is hard at times but getting used to it. Everytime im down I look how far we have come and look at how happy dds are. dd1 loves nothing more then picking her own clothes and they are mainly pink and frilly. dd1 is coming along nicely at school and "a pleasure to teach" and now a buddy for other children.

she loves school and everything about being here. she has really settled aparr from her behaviour which hopefully ill get to the bottom of it.thank you once again for all od the support I recieved 13 and a bit weeks ago. ive come a long way and still got a long way to go but I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. everyday I gwt stronger and stronger.

Thanks for the update and all good wishes to you in your new life. I hope you are really, really proud of yourself for having the strength to escape

Really pleased for you. Hope you get the life you deserve now.

Wow - am choked up. You and your DDs have shown amazing strength.

I wish you all nothing but happiness.

Haven't cried for months but I have tears in my eyes reading your post about how far you have come x

Good for you

A massive congratulations and a huge well done. I don't remember you but it makes no difference, it sounds like you put your and your daughters well being first and sometimes that's not easy.
Look to the future, I'm sure it's going to be great :)

I remember your thread. I'm so glad you're all right.

oh. toffee. so lovely to hear from you :)

so glad you're settling and your dd1 has friends. and dd2 is enjoying life :)

Well done lovey

I also remember your thread. So pleased you're doing well.

I remember your posts and I do love an update so thanks! You are a brave woman, and a great role model for your dds.

Great to hear an update! You are doing so well!

So glad to hear things are going well - you are an amazing woman!

Well done toffee, you're a shining example to your DDs and to anyone not brave enough to make the leap out of a DV relationship.

I remember your thread. I'm so pleased things are working out for you and your girls. Wishing you the best of luck in the future. :-)

I'm so so happy for you.

When I read your original thread I was still stuck in my hideous marriage. Reading about how strong you were was a real inspiration to me. Now I'm out too.

You are and will continue to be an enormous inspiration to your girls, now and as they grow up. You have done something so amazing for all of you, you should be so proud.

Wishing you all the best in your new life toffee. Xx

Very happy for you x

I remember your thread & I am so glad that you are finally getting the lives you & your DD's deserve. Keep going forwards - you are amazing!

So great to hear this toffee! You have been amazing - a fab example to your girls.

Amazing update! Well done. Your dd's are lucky to have you as their mummy. Wishing you the very best with e rrythi g.

xx

Well done Toffee. You have done a brave and brilliant thing for you and your children. X

what a strong and amazing mother and woman you are.

your children and you deserve to be happy and secure. so glad you came back. x

Well done toffee! As much as you can see how far you've come already, believe me that there is so much more good changes coming your way.

You'll be pinching yourself daily! Freedom is the most important thing there is.

Your dd1 may exhibit odd behaviour now, but as I say, this is only the beginning, she too has to allow the poison she experienced to leave her system too. They act up sometimes because they're not terrified anymore.

It won't last, just be consistent, love her and tell her you'll all be fine.

And you will be. I promise!

That's amazing news! Very happy for you (and you too, Fairy)!

Toffee I remember your thread.

Well done for keeping going and looking after your dd so well.

I hope things continue to be good for you:)

Well done. A very hard journey for you but you are being really brave.

Just some (hopefully) helpful advice/suggestion.

I teach in a school that serves a refuge catchment. As a result we often have children who have come from the refuge and have had very difficult starts to life.

As a result we have additional access to counselling devices and an in house play therapist.

It may be worth asking your DD1 school if there is anything they can do to help your DD. You seem to be taking her behaviour in your stride and have a very positive view of it but I wonder if counselling will help get to the bottom of it.

Just an idea. I'm glad life in on the up for you x