Whose the head fuck

[unluckyineverything]

Text conversation with me an so called dp today

Me,did you ask xxx about borrowing car?

Dp, yep

Me,well what did he say?

Him, what has it got to do with you?

Me,I've only got a week to sort something out for ds birthday an no car means we can't go to x place so as it's a favour for me surely it has everything to do with me

Him, your such a head fuck usining your kids as ammo top mom ain't ya

Just for back ground info we have been together for 4 years, no dcs together but his very close to my 3 dcs youngest calls him dad don't live together as we live 2mins from one another. Please anyone explain how I'm a head fuck

He sounds awful, good decision OP.
If it's just been since Xmas then I think he wants out - possibly there's someone else too - and is being a shit to you (a) so you'll dump him and (b) cos the more he persuades himself you're the awful one, the more justified he us in the cheating /leaving.
I very much suspect there were signs of him being a wanker before Xmas though.
Please don't consider yourself unlucky in everything... you're lucky that you have the sense to recognise his nastiness for what it is, and lucky enough to be getting rid!

Sorry haven't read whole thread but from orig post he's a knob

Please don't show him this thread

He will dismiss us a bunch of man hating lesbians

Using this site as a way to try and "show" someone the error of their ways is a cop out

have the courage of your own convictions and spare us from dickheads like this please

You don't need us as back up.

You apace finish with him just because you want to.

Great news that you're going to finish with him. Being told he doesn't like the sound of your voice is shocking. It's all so pointlessly nasty, and this is not normal behaviour.

I wouldn't send him a link to this. You don't need your friends (us on here) to convince him of anything. You have the right to decide whether or not you're happy in this relationship, and to end it. You don't need to make your case for ending a relationship. He's so nasty and unreasonable it'd be impossible to make any sort of point anyway. Save this place for you, so that you don't have to worry that he's reading everything you write on here.