I'm Gonna Paint That Man Right Outta My Hair.....

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

(With apologies to Rodgers and Hammerstein)

Someone just now mentioned redecorating as a constructive way to make a new place feel like home and I remember finding a pot of emulsion wielded with passion was a good way to exorcise the old home of exH vibes.

Survivors of heartbreak and life - what did you do to wash that man right outta your hair?.. :)

[mmmmtoffee]

the first thing I did was take dds to mcdonalds then bought dds girly clothes (skirts and pink).

when we get our own home it will be purple and pink with flowers as I like purple, dd1 likes pink and flowers as dd2 keeps pointing toflowers. we were never allowed any colours in the house with exp. he.picked every colour. black anyone?

[handfulofcottonbuds]

I bought new cushions too

[CurtWild]

Mmmmtoffee that sounds lovely! We never had colours either, always magnolia! There's lots of hot pink and purple and teal going on in my new house

[redundantandbitter]

Makes mental note - ask DM for matching cushions! There's a definite soft furnishings theme going on here.

[TheShimmeringPussycat]

Oh, just remembered one. Can now put my car away, in our double garage. (OK one half is still full of stuff - but none of it is his - previously no-one could park in it)

[GarlicMarchHare]

I bought some very expensive john lewis pillows, duvet and Egyptian cotton bed linen.

Me, too, Ladyflower :)

I've got quite the little break-up routine. It requires a new bed, a long-haul air ticket, and at least one "overwrite" shag. Just as well I'm not with anyone now, I couldn't afford the recovery

[CurtWild]

Hm an 'overwrite' shag..I think I'm a way off that one yet..gives me something to look forward to once the buying of soft furnishings and decorating is over though..

[GarlicMarchHare]

[DavidTwattenborough]

at least one "overwrite" shag

What a great turn of phrase GarlicMarchHare. I'm going to remember that one!

[AShadowStirsWithin]

Mine is still here until April although we separated 3 weeks ago. He agreed to exist in the spare room only and I have stamped my mark over every other room in the house. I've moved the table into the kitchen instead of it being stuffed in the corner of the living room. I bought new crockery and table mats. I lugged the sofa bed downstairs so that the living room now has two sofas and people don't all have to sit squashed up in a line! I also bought tonnes of cushions, fairylights and have flowers everywhere. I bought a tumble dryer! No more spending my whole day dashing in and out of the garden trying to dodge rain and get bedding and towels dry in deepest winter. He always said "we don't need one". Yes we fucking did!

I've got new bedding, wall stickers up everywhere of trees and green things. Oh and I redecorated the bathroom. Once he's gone I've got paint, new furniture and curtains for the spare room and I'm going to make it into a little upstairs lounge just for me with a small tv and all my craft stuff.

It's definitely therapeutic doing it but also I think it is about resasserting boundaries. I'm asserting that this is my home, that I can make decisions about it, and reminding myself what I like! what is ME and not letting someone else tell me what I like iyswim?

[BeCool]

I decluttered - bags and bags and bags of stuff left the flat for the rubbish, the charity shop etc.

I have totally transformed where we live - it's much nicer now.

[BeforeAndAfter]

Blimey ashadow you're in superwoman mode - all that in three weeks. He must be a quivering wreck in that spare room!

[Qix]

Hungarian goose down mattress topper, duvet and pillows.

[MisguidedAngel]

crispyporkbelly - "shag a hot bloke" - yes yes yes. I did that, and then bought the cushions and painted my living room pale pink.

[WhotheWhat]

Every Wednesday I feel a little thrill that I never have to eat a massive plate of over cooked tuna effing pasta again. Ever.

[myown2feetaregreat]

Love,love,love these type of threads. Positive Posting.

Little things for me.

Learning how to use chainsaw, FW could never start first time, I CAN! Go me, ditto petrol mower, lopping 200 feet of hedge down to a respectable, neighbourly, six foot height. Neighbours love me.

Redecorated living room. Memo to self, buy cushions.
Replaced his old fashioned settee with trendy new one
To do list: complete attic conversion, another FW task half completed.
Get sparkley manicure, new hair style.
Would love to shag a hot bloke, but very shy, leaves on list just in case.

[BeforeAndAfter]

Ooh, myown's reminded me of another one.

I bought myself a beautiful Makita hammer drill and I've used it loads.

XH wouldn't let me have the old drill that we had because it matched something else. Both of which were unused.

[CurtWild]

No more having to feign interest when he started talking about medals or achievements unlocked during the exorbitant amount of time he spent playing online games.
And when I go to bed on my own it's because I'm actually on my own, not because it's yet another night he'd rather chat online all night than come to bed.
Makes sure to add 'shag a hot bloke' to future 'to do' list.

[myown2feetaregreat]

Cushion update

makes mental note to buy more cushions, too what's with men not liking cushions?

My lovely ds informs, its not the cushions per-say, its the mandatory time consuming "plumping" each day ,also the minefield of right or wrong combination of size, colour and shape as he returns to said settee/bed/chair etc.
In his own home, he has just the one, which the dog humps , and the kind man that he is ,makes sure to offer this to his dad (XH) when he deigns to call round .

[mammadiggingdeep]

Bought cushions

Bought pink saucepans

Made roasts every Sunday for my girls, he didnt like roast dinners. (Who doesn't like a roast dinner?!)

[newsandreviews]

Fab thread. Just what I needed

Loving cushion rage, swede and overwrite shag!

Mine didn't live with me but still removed any traces of him. The day we split I was washing up and 'his' mug just broke in my hand.. honest I didn't do a thing! Sign from the angels I think.

The big naughty thing I have done is buy a beautiful, velvet upholstered bed from next but sadly won't arrive for another 7 weeks. He brought the bed we have. Tosser.

[newsandreviews]

More cushions sound good too - in fact yes he too did make various comments about the cushions I had and having to rearrange them. Tosser

[handfulofcottonbuds]

My dear friend who split from her husband around the same time as me proudly showed me round her place a couple of weeks ago to show me the paint job she had done.

........then she showed me her new cushions!! This thread has made me laugh - every Relate counsellor needs to prescribe cushions!

and maybe an overwrite shag

[redundantandbitter]

But NOT shagging the 'overwrite' on the new cushions . That would be an horrific episode of UA (upholstery abuse).

myown would LOVE a chainsaw. DDs father took his. My stupid ex was a tree surgeon in a previous life ... And I am
Now without someone to chop my firewood. Adds chainsaw to list before cushions, after hot overwrite shag

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

I wonder if soft-furnishing manufacturers are aware that there's a lucrative market waiting for them if they target their ads to the recently separated? :) Voice-over.... 'You miss him. Sure you do. But how about covering up that sofa ass-groove the bastard left behind with a few of our lovely cushions?'