I think she's said it all..

[SadFaceMethinks]

I've been having problems with my OH, which to be honest we shouldn't be having. We should be in the honeymoon period of the relationship, having the time of our lives.
However, she told me a couple of weeks ago that she was struggling with the relationship because I don't earn as much as her ex. It's all been quite open but she's decided now that I've moved in, that she wants more than I can give her.
I don't think she's over the breakup of her marriage and I think she's been fooling herself that she was capable of giving me what she thought she could.

Last night, she got in from an impromptu night with the girls and announced that she isn't sure if she loves me and that I should have some dignity.

I'm taking this as "please leave as soon as convenient" but I wanted opinions before I did anything.
I know things have been difficult, but I really want to be with her.. I suppose this is part of the problem.
She's also been really distant and is talking to other exes on FB.. My friends think she already has the next guy waiting in the wings...

I'm just heartbroken. I don't want to break it off.

"Having said that, I'd ask her to be honest and upfront and tell me what she wanted instead of giving hints. Tell her to have some dignity and break up properly herself."

I agree with Lweji, takes you off the back foot so you can control the endgame a bit more, but it is an endgame.

You don't earn £21k by any chance do you?

i say move out and on from her....she sounds immature, shallow and manipulative. You will definitely be better off without her!

I'm not sure she IS being that horrible. She told you gently a couple of weeks ago and you're still there, maybe she's HAD to get harsh to get you to go.

Either way it doesn't really matter. You sound like a lovely person who is looking for a committed relationship and there are plenty of others looking for that too. You'll be ok but move our pronto! Tonight if possible.

Ooh bless you you are more then your pay packet sounds like she's using that as an excuse

It's such a shame you do really like her but the "have a bit of dignity" comment really got my back up and its very cruel, so gosh only knows how you feel

If I were you I'd pack and go

Take the extremely broad hint and move on

Anything else is esteem-robbing bollocks

Are you going to leave OP?

Logg1e that's exactly what I was wondering. And if the girlfriend's daddy was a high earner and she grew up wanting for nothing ...

what is the significance of 21k ?

It's from a thread where the OP wondered if she was BU worrying that her DP was only on 21k, which was a lot less than she was accustomed from her exH.

Didn't the OP on the other thread make it very clear that her father had been a high earner and so had her ex h so she was very used to a certain lifestyle. Added to that, her new partner was lovely but just couldn't earn enough to maintain her lifestyle.

Does this sound familiar Sad. If so, definitely run. Run like the wind. With your dignity in tact.

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Does OP really need to know that his DP might have bitching about his salary etc on here? Kicking him when he's down, no? Hopefully it's someone else.

Either way - OP your girlfriend sounds like a shallow bellend. Get out, stay out and move on.

Good luck!

Hi. No.. I don't earn 21..lol

So, what are you going to do?

although... What's the link?
it would be nice to see how some one else might view it from their perspective.. (I'm curious)

It's not my oh, but sounds like a similar situation...

And what am I going to do?

What and when is best for me I suppose.
I'll let you know when I work that out...

OK.

Good luck.

SadFace, I don't think there is anything to work out, she's made it clear she wants you to leave, but obviously isn't mature enough to actually come out & tell you.

When people show you their true colour, you have to believe them.

It was clearly not the same situation, which was why I explained what it was. They were not living together on the other thread (unless she changed the details not to be recognised), but I couldn't find it.

I'd start looking for a place now, and I'd be telling her that she got what she wanted.
Do you do anything at home?

Yes.
I do what needs doing round the house. I'm not afraid of housework or diy

Ooooh, great. When can I expect you round then?

Look, I don't know what is best for you, but fighting for a dead (that I can see) relationship isn't going to get you anywhere.

What are you waiting for? How to tell her? Where to go? or both?

Can you sort out somewhere else to live this weekend?

Don't put it off, it will only be worse for you.