silent treatment or sulking

[jacky1234]

Hi never done this before but find it very hard to burden friends with my problems. Cut a long story short husband of 16 years has not talked to me since xmas. Reason being I confronted him on something he had done and didn't feel happy with. He looked at me said "finished now" went in other room and watched television with children. He kept this up for 2 weeks then I caved and need to sort it out it drives me crazy. He says he is depressed and just not happy with anything. I left text message on phone next day saying if this is the case needs to see GP and if needs to talk I am here. He likes to drink 3 night out of 7 in house and this I don't think is a good example to set our 2 teenagers. Does anybody's husband do this? would love to know what you think. Things go over in your mind but nice to get it off my chest ANY ADVICE PLEASE!

Good luck for monday love! Well done for not letting him break you!

He's forgotten why he's not talking to you, hasn't he, which is why he scrabbled for something to say.

He's not talking because he doesn't want to.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. This support has saved my sanity. KepekCrumbs I will re-read your post if ever a moment of doubt. The same night i spoke to him came home from seeing a friend, he was asleep sitting up on settee with a bottle of wine under his arm. Then came to bed and demanded my son switch his x-box off. I have slept in a separate room the past 2 nights BLISS, but will not have this pleasure tonight as my other son comes home from a weekend away.

I still do laundry as I am thinking I don't want him to have anything to throw back at me when we involve solicitors

What do you mean Op?

\what I mean is maybe if I stop cooking, laundry etc is I dont want to wind him up any more than he is and he could make things awkward when it comes to money etc.

jacky love, whatever you do or don't do, won't make a jot of difference, if he wants to sulk, he'll find a way to manufacture something you have done for him to justify ignoring you.

As I said, if there were a legitimate reason to do this to you, he would have been pin point clear about the reason he hasn't spoken to you for months.

Stonewalling is one of the WORST forms of abuse. If you are married, there are precedents and established norms for division of assets and money.

i would strongly advise you to gather as much info on finances as poss and go and see a solicitor for a free half an hour. If you are shown that you have a stronger position than you think you do, you won't worry quite so much and you will see where the potential pit falls are.

Chances are that he hates women/you so much that he'll be difficult no matter what you do, so know your rights first and foremost and prepare to have to fight, cos that is where this guy will drag it. For sure.

Crikey OP I've just read your thread!

I was married for 10 years to a sulker and I found that I started playing him at his own game and ding it too - which is so not my style. I'm more of a have-an-argument-calm-down-quickly-and-apologise-and-sort-it-out kinda gal!

He is a small-minded, pig-headed, abusive arsehole Jacky and you will not believe how much happier you'll be if you ditch him!

Agree with Hissy. Don't bother trying to to your around him. Whatever he's sulking about is done arbitrary nonsense so don't waste time trying to placate the eejit.

Don't do anything else for him. The more you try to please these types, the more they enjoy rejecting you.