Do you "make love" to your partner or "have sex"?

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For me its just sex - although the sex is good - it could be anyone - are we just FBs?

Both. Today we had rampant, wake the neighbours (we checked that they were out first) sex.

Midweek we had a gentle make loving sesh. When we TTC it felt like love making.

Here it's, 'fancy a shag?'

I used to have a friend from wales that would use, 'Are you fuckin' or what?' As a chat up line and it worked with amazing regularity. He was cute though!

Ah - looking into each other's eyes at the best moments is lovely:)

We do both but actually don't say either. We don't ask if the other wants to 'make lurrve' or have sex or whatever. We just do. Sometimes it could be described as making love, but not often....

I'm a bit surprised at how many of you actually say 'fancy a shag/sex/whatever...'!

We don't have a dog but we do have a cat - he came and sat on the bed this morning at an inappropriate moment. And stared. And then got bounced!!
(might have to adopt 'shall we bounce the cat' as an expression)

I can't look DH in the eyes or I start laughing. I hate the phrase make love. Sometimes we fuck but mainly I would just call it sex it is fun and we fling each other around and laugh sometimes and just enjoy it.

I heard someone say once "We make love and don't always orgasm it is just the act of being close"

Fuck that! What's the point?

I wouldn't say having my hair pulled and my arse slapped while being called a filthy whore amounts to 'making love'. Hahaha!

We call it 'having some fun'. Both came from families which absolutely didn't ever talk about sex or anything like that, and it's stayed with us, we find a lot of words very awkward

Boak at making love,now and again dp thinks he should make an effort to be sensual or loving during sex..it's off putting and don't like the stare into the eyes pish.
I like to fuck..
We just call it some fun or "close the door"

And we feel closer after so the love is there just not during the deed.

Off topic slightly but do you talk much during sex? Not asking for specific examples but is it rude stuff or what?? We just talk a bit but not loads. Last night it was quite funny because we were taking the mick out of the scene in Stella where Nadine is leaning over looking at paint samples and then the camera pans out and shows Carl doing her from behind. Right in the middle of it last night, I said to DP "so which colour do you fancy on the walls then".

Sorry, tmi but we thought it was funny Maybe just our sense of humour though.

Making love is an utter turn off. Creepy even.

My sex definitely bothers the dog. He looks sort of jealous and barks at vital moments

Notta, am relieved we're not the only couple who don't call it anything...

Today it was 'want to join me upstairs?' We're just wild, us.

But on the infrequent occasions when The Act is mentioned, it's sex.

when I lived at home, my dad asked me one morning if me and then bf (now dh) had been 'doing gymnastics'?! Got to say though, poor dh was more embarrassed when my dad asked him the next time he came round!
Now, it's more of a lecherous look and a nudge!

We have sex, we make love, and we fuck.

I think there's a difference, and dp and I have talked about it. There's a pure physical, the emotional bonding type, and the... well, dirty shagging type. All are nice.

But we never actually ask for any of the above. We do a lot of non-verbal cues, or just kind of getting on with it, and the type of annoying the dog cat we're doing just happens, it isn't verbalized beforehand. Maybe a word during if one of us wants something different and physical cues aren't cutting it.

I don't have an aversion to the phrase 'make love' with my partner though. It would only make me cringe if it came up in a discussion with a stranger. Besides oversharing on mumsnet.

The only terms I use are "good boner, shame to waste it" or "fancy a fuck?"