Do you "make love" to your partner or "have sex"?

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For me its just sex - although the sex is good - it could be anyone - are we just FBs?

uurrggh, hate that phrase. Fuck, mainly, sometimes shag.

We do both. I like to differentiate too. There's sex as an expression of love, and then there's fucking as raw animal passion too

Both!
I never would say 'let's make love' though. It just sounds wrong :)

Making love or lovemaking is just so foul, makes me cringe. I've never said it unless you include belting it out as song lyrics, then its okay. Shagging is my preferred word.

Its frustrating because I would like to 'make love' more often, i.e. lots of gentle caressing, fondling, light playing around and teasing slow and deliberately thoughtful. Long lead up.

I'm motivated to sex by my emotions quite often - ie if DP is especially sweet and thoughtful that day, or I'm just feeling lovey dovey - and the kind of sex I want is making love. In those moments I'm motivated to sex not by physically being turned on but something deeper.

But DP just prefers to screw.

Sigh

In our house it's "fancy a shaaaaaag?"
Complete with raised eyebrow and faux lecherous expression.
If DH ever uttered the words "making love" I'd gag.

We fuck.

Sometimes it's more intense emotionally. Sometimes it's more pure filth. Both are good. Both are a fuck in this house!

I don't think I could use "make love" in a conversation and keep a straight face.

We do both. But often the making love doesn't always involve sex or even activities pertaining thereto at all.

We dont use either term -- was just expressing how I felt in the act...I dont feel that it is loving - passionate, brilliant, etc yes but not "romantic"

Kisses - what does your "making love" then?

Mam - we dont do any lovey - dovey stuff...

Maybe the issue is that I need tenderness and physical contact at other times...

We definitely fuck in this house. (And elsewhere if the occasion allows )

I really don't 'do' the whole slow, romantic music in the background kind of sex. I much prefer just a good shag with lots of eye contact, which to me is just intensely sexy.

To me that's a real emotional connection.

Neither. We bone.

OH once said mid act 'this isn't just sex is it, this is making love' and I nearly puked over his shoulder.

But I know what he meant, it's just a naff term.

We do both. Let's say 'raw lust sex' and 'emotional bonding sex'.

I don't agree that the emotional bonding sex is necessarily the slow stuff, or the raw lust sex is necessarily the quick stuff. Either can go either way with us. A quickie can be all about the feelings. A 2 hour sesh. can be nothing but physical sex.

Op - if for you it's always the raw lust sex, with no real interest in the person you are in bed with ('it could be anyone') then you may well be in a FB thing. Or not. Depends what you do out of bed. Depends how long you have been together. FBs don't, on the whole, date/socialise - you meet, you have sex.

I've never used any terms to my DH about sex. We don't need to verbalise a question. We exchange looks, body language etc and then when DD has been in bed for a bit, one or other of us asks the other if they want to go up.

'Fancy a fuck?' Is what I say to my dh and he drops his trousers before he's even said yes!
Sometimes he will say 'shall we make love?' And I'll say 'yep let's get dirty!'
I don't really like the making love thing it sounds really wet and pathetic but my dh thinks it's romantic bless him.

Making love makes me cringe, I hate it and it reminds me of some Mills+Boon soppy scene where the heroine gets the man, on the beach with waves lapping as they frolic in the foam .

Just no!

Sometimes we shag, sometimes we fuck, sometimes we say "shall we annoy the dog?" (Dog sleeps in our room, when we are shagging he stares at us for a while then flounces out of the room with a pissed off look on his face and waits outside till we're finished).

"annoy the dog"

I'm adopting that euphemism. Because we don't have a dog.

Both. Sometimes it's intimate and soft and loving. Others it is downright filthy.

"Annoy the dog" Please let's make that an official MN euphemism. Please please please please. I'd buy a T-shirt with that on.

Woohoo, I invented an MN 'thing'! Go me!

Annoy the dog! Brilliant! I have a dog. I shall be stealing this phrase.

I would say both really although we never call it making love.

In our house it's "fancy a shaaaaaag?" Complete with raised eyebrow and faux lecherous expression. If DH ever uttered the words "making love" I'd gag.

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