Anyone experienced this?

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My lovely friend's DH will not speak to hear, it's been four weeks now. He was like this before Christmas for three weeks and then ok but then they had a minor row about the children's behaviour and he's not spoken to her since. She's tried so hard to make up, she keeps asking to talk, she's asked for a hug, she even made him a valentine's meal but he just rejects her. It's causing so much tension at home, they live in a small house with two young children and you can sense the tension as soon as you walk through the door.

She's at a loss as to what to do and doesn't understand why he's doing this when their argument was relatively minor.

He's refused to talk to her and is completely against counselling. She's terrified that he's pushing her away because he wants it to end. The children are young and she earns very little so doesn't know how she'd cope on her own.

Does anyone have any ideas or experience of this?

benefits website, hope it helps

The moving out thing is just another threat, designed to panic her back into line, I think.

Last thing he expects is for her to say 'ok then' and let him go.

But this is exactly what she should do, to show him her commitment to insisting on respect and decent treatment from him.

She should let him go, and make sure he knows its not just up to him if he wants to come back.

She needs to call the council tax people and get a reduction, benefits and look again at childcare. I assume he will still be contributing financially? She should also see a solicitor and head for cab to get all info on what to do wrt finances.

I would also change the locks so he can't waltz in and out when he pleases, fix contact time so the dc aren't expecting him all the time, and being disappointed.

I wouldn't cook, clean or allow him in to play dad at home then push off. And if he wants to see the dc its alone, not with her hovering and helping.

She could do with going to the hairdressers, taking time for herself and enjoying having a happy home without a black cloud in it.

And no date nights! Really? And she could try counselling for just her. Him being there won't be any good. He won't go because he knows he's a twat.

So he gets his cake....date nights and a pad to himself while she deals with the kids and the house.

if he moves out - it should be for good unless he wants to see a counsellor and do it properly.

I'd torpedo the date nights too, makes it FAR too like a fecking booty call.

The reference to 1 month, and date nights is for HIS benefit, because he is doing this for effect, and actually he's insecure and scared the OP will say 'Off you fuck then'. It's just a carrot dangling exercise.