Peter is coming home tomorrow, and i am worried about living together again.

[misdee]

its the big day tomorrow. after 14months of living 30miles apart and visiting him in hospital he is finally allowed to come home with the LVAD. but I am so so worried. I lvoe him, but can we survive living in this half-life any longer? I dont feel like a wife, i feel like a carer and mother. I dont feel appricated and loved. i am made to feel inadaquate as a carer by MIL snyway, and i am so so dreaded him coming home, as well as being over the moon sbout it.

just so so confused.

i have been following your story without actually posting, words just dont seem enough. I think that what you have coped with over the past 14months is amazing, you are an amazing wife/mother who has managed to juggle everything amazingly well and if your MIL cant see that then sod her, i bet she couldnt cope as well as you have, i know i couldnt

I just wanted to wish you all luck. Im glad Peter is finally home and although it is bound to be strange for you all at first i know you will get through it. I agree with what many have said about trying to find time alone with Peter when the kids are out/in bed. After 14 months apart you need that time together, even if its only for an hour or so. You also need to make sure you dont run yourself into the ground trying to be a wife/mother/carer. Maybe now and again you can get a bit of time to yourself when you can actually be yourself, do something for you. Maybe when the carers are in and your parents have the kids. Im sure no one would begrudge you that, especially not Peter who probably realises how hard its been for you.

Good luck!!

hope ypu have enjoyed your evening together and it should get easier it will just take time to adjust thats all . big hugs to you both

misdee hope you are ok and hope your dh is settling being back at home