Can't tell if I should end it with him...

[tygertygerburningbright]

I posted here a few months ago about dps anger issues. He continued to kick off every time he got drunk, and the last two times he squared up to me. I didn't speak to him for two weeks (we don't live together yet) but he went to his doctor to ask about anger management and is waiting on a referral.

We patched things up over valentines Weekend but obviously things were in no way back to normal.

Last night I was very stressed and we were just talking about some stuff that's happened lately, work problems etc. I was saying I think I just need some time to relax alone and clear my head etc. But then he just got kind of moody and grumpy. I asked him what was wrong then he basically picked a fight. He does this self pitying 'I'm obviously just useless' thing all the time and I hate it. So we had a little disagreement. I was hurt because I had been hoping he would comfort me but he just made it all about him and picked a fight over nothing.

He slept on the sofa and went to work leaving me a note saying sorry etc. But I don't know what to do. I was so close to ending it with him recently and it seems like he doesn't really care at all.

[innisglas]

What a shame. My daughter just went through this with the father of her baby. Except he hasn't even recognized that he needs help. When he's not having a temper tantrum he is very sweet and wonderful with the baby, but it is too much of a risk, even if he did have therapy.
Another poster says that she had therapy about the way she chooses the men in her life and it worked, go for it!