"I'm fattist"

[fackit]

That's what he said in our first phone call post some really great emails (OD) and pre a first date. I am so disappointed, it was going well up til then. It's kinda killed it for me. Where there's this kind of prejudice there's going to be more isn't there? I bet he's a DF reader too.

Oh well.

Wow! Oh well, at least you've saved the time you might otherwise have wasted on this idiot.

At least you found out he's a tosswad before going to all the effort of meeting him.

What did you say in reply?

Op .... I remember my online dating spell. I'd always do a 'call screen' before I actually met them. So many would come out with something vile to just put me off....or be really uninteresting.

NEXT

He isn't by any chance called Adam is he? I went on a date a few years ago with a guy who said the exact same thing on our first (and only) date.

I'm interested in the context, as it's an odd thing to say on a first phone call. Were you both discussing your appearances? I can understand somebody not being physically attracted to somebody with a certain body type, but to be so dismissive of all overweight people is quite bizarre.

No he isn't an Adam. I said "why are you like that"?

It's awful. My DS is a lovely, lovely fella and he's overweight and all I could think of was how offensive that remark is.

Ms well he was discussing his appearance actually and he mentioned he is paranoid about getting fat himself. He also asked me what size I am as he'd guessed it from my pic.

Op ....my friend actually spoke to one guy on line.... and spoke on phone....a teacher sounded nice.
When she met up with him He seemed charming. After a couple of drinks he said ...."can I just ask....have you got any stretch marks? It's just the one thing I can't bare to look at" vile twunt

Wow... these charmers really are single for a reason aren't they?

I was just thinking that and remembering something else he said about a previous date's appearance. Yes, that's why he's single - great on paper but a right tit in person.

NEXT!

Prejudice or preference? My mate will not go out with men who have shaved heads/are bald. Thats her first rejection when she looks at on line dating pics. Second is obvious tattoos.

It doesn't make her prejudiced. She doesn't find those sorts attractive. Whether you like it or not, physical attraction is important.

Did you say: "I'm cuntist"?

Darling I think his beliefs about overweight people DO make him prejudiced since they weren't about their appearance, more about the kind of people they are.

brag .

Ha I really hope he either has weird sencd of humour and this is his idea of a joke. If not then I think you got A lucky escape!

Brag...that's brilliant.

Send him a wee limerick:

You won't like me if I am fat?
A pity that you feel like that.
But it saddens me more
To discover that you're
Such a horrible prejudiced twat.

Ha Brag cuntist! brilliant!

Chateau & Brag - love it!

Sounds like you've had a narrow escape OP.

Yes, you've had a lucky escape! I get how people have types they go for and I do find tall skinny men attractive. However DH is a few inches taller than me (average height really) and a bit plump and I'd far rather be married to him than some skinny tall fattist idiot because there are more important things than appearance!

brag and chateiau

Yes, I may be fat

But it is also true
You are a twat
Now feel the unjustice
Cos I'm a Cuntist

Bye

Such a weird thing for him to say!

I think you had a lucky escape.

I suppose you should look on the bright side that he's at least outed himself as a bigot right now.

I am something of a health freak and very into exercise and the importance of a healthy diet. I would assume that anyone significantly overweight would not, or could not (e.g. weight gain caused by an underlying health problem) share the same philosophy and certainly wouldn't be into the same level of exercise and outdoor activities as I am. As such I couldn't see that I'd have enough in common with them to sustain a relationship, so if I'm going to be brutally honest, I probably wouldn't choose someone significantly overweight if I was looking at OD profiles. That in no way means I think they are worth less than someone at a healthy weight, however. I am simply exercising a personal preference in partners in the same way I would have a preference against choosing a smoker for the same reasons.

Could your date have been trying to say similar and clumsily trying to give you a compliment? I'm clutching at straws really though, because in a million years I can't ever imagine myself being so crass as to come out with something like that.

And the missing the point award goes to...