Do you have a best friend?

[principalitygirl]

I don't. I wouldn't describe any of my friends as a 'best' friend and I don't think any of them would describe me as theirs either.

I have lots of friends - a few I've known since childhood, the rest I've made through studying, living or working together and, more recently, since having my child. These friends are spread all over the world too. The ones I see most are the 'mum' ones. My friends are almost exclusively female. A few are male but these were originally DH's friends who are now our joint friends as a couple.

Typical?

I'm lucky enough to have "6 best friends" there is a group of us that are very close! 3 of us started out at nursery school as "best friends" another 1 joined us aged 8 when she joined our primary school after moving to the area and then the last two were met at age 11 in the first few weeks of starting secondary school (they came from diff primary) we have just all been firm friends and stuck together since then, we done everything together, boyfriends, girls holidays, weddings, babies etc! And we still are all in constant contact and met up weekly and talk daily!

I have met other friends (very good friends) along the way but I would consider these girls to be my very best friends, never any secrets etc!

I consider myself to be very lucky to have them

I had one until I was 21 and I made an 'executive decision' that she was holding me back and was a Wendy.

I do miss the easy comfort of having a friend to sit around and eat biscuits with etc.

I actually wish that I hadn't had a best friend at all so that I didn't know what I am missing.

DP is my best friend, it's not the same as a non-sexual best friend though

My Dh is my best freind.

I moved around a lot during my childhood. I went to 7 different schools so I don't really make "best friends" I think I'm subconsciously always ready to move so I don't see the point.

I've been with DH 25 years and apart from relatives it's the longest I've known anyone. I suppose I treat him like a "best friend" and he does me, it works for us

I don't have any female friends at all and don't miss it. I've always bee content with just a boyfriend and work colleagues.

I tried with a new friendship last year, but as I lived in a cliquey village then, and she became the new village Queen Bee, and was also it turned out one of those fake rainbow tribers all save the whales and end poverty look at me look at me in my charity shop attire, but actually she was bigoted when drunk and ran off to her rich mummy whenever she tired of being penniless, it wasn't going to end well.

I don't think I could share loyalty between a boyfriend and another friend anyway.

It does get quite lonely when there is no one to talk to other than your OH. Sometimes you need a friend outside of your relationship to talk to, esp if you need to have a whinge about home life or your OH.

I do but she lives in America. I don't know if she would call me her best friend.

I don't really have many friends otherwise, I've got a bit friendly with some of the mums from school, ie i'd meet up with them for a coffee. B

I made a conscious effort last year to go on the mums nights out so I could make more friends. I was unhappy not having them but now I feel better.

I don't have one :(

It's always the case that I form a friendship with someone, consider them a close/best friend, and then they either go and treat me badly, or make it clear that someone else is their best friend. Basically no one ever values me as much as I value them.

I haven't got good self esteem though. Those that have great friendships seem to have good self esteem, and a loving supportive family around them too. I'm very jealous.

ExcuseTypos - I could have written you post . I hope you feel settled very soon .

I have a lot of friends some closer than others, never wanted a ‘best' friend I would find that too restrictive

Yes. We have been best friends since the first day of secondary school so 26 years now.There have been periods when we have pissed each other not and not been as close-both geographically and emotionally speaking-but she will always be my best friend as we have shared so much together.

I have another very good friend too-friends for 20 years. We stayed in touch but did'nt actually see each other for a good few years and even now we only meet up once a year but can just pick up where we left off.Actually I would class her as my best friend too although I don't think she would say the same about me.

I have a few friends who I have met at nursery/playgroups etc but I find these friendships to be more transient.

I have one friend I've known since I was 14 and would call her my best friend although I don't feel we're particularly close. It's nice to have someone who understands you're family history etc. because of the length of time we've known each other. We also don't have many friends in common so I feel safer telling her some things as she has no one to pass them on to, not that I think she would.

I don't really have any other friends I feel I could trust with the real nitty gritty of my life. I have many mum friends but whenever I tell them anything that's bothering me it feels like I've given them information that they'll enjoy gossiping about, I don't get the feeling they're genuinely bothered about me.

Today I told someone about something that happened to my son at school last week that's been bothering me as I'm not sure whether I should have made more fuss. However, when I told her I could tell that it will be passed around with glee so I'm feeling really miserable about it now.

I can talk to H about all of this which is great but if I was having problems with him I can't think of anyone I could comfortably talk to about it.

Feeling a bit sad and friendless tonight. Maybe I'm too paranoid for friendships.

I have a best friend, and other close friends.

My best friend I love like a sister. She is always there for me whenever I need her, and I am there for her too. We have known each other since school and supported each other through an awful lot. We talk so much, our partners always are always amazed we never run out of things to say! We stay over at each others houses, do our weekly shop together, we take our kids out to play centres and so on. We have even been on holiday together. We are just really close. I would be lost without her!