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Orgasm after childbirth....(blush)

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blushingaswespeak · 02/08/2006 08:20

Since having dd sex is pretty infrequent and it took us a long time to get going again (dd 9mths). These days, when we are both wide awake enough I find it so much easier to come and when I do it is sooooo strong it takes me a while to recover . Not complaining, in fact it is very lovely - it just seems like the whole sex thing has changed, what I like and where I like it iyswim. Is this unusual?

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jellyjelly · 02/08/2006 08:53

Dont complain love, i am not getting any!!!

HappyDaddy · 02/08/2006 09:20

I bet your dp thinks he's Mr Loverman! LOL

NotAnOtter · 02/08/2006 09:38

i think it is probably the infrequency...its always good after a drought!

jellyjelly · 02/08/2006 09:55

Boy is mine going to be good then!

magnolia1 · 02/08/2006 09:58

I have noticed after kids its more intense

HappyDaddy · 02/08/2006 10:11

It's also possibly because you are so seldom wide awake that when you are EVERYTHING feels more intense. I bet the cup of tea you have afterwards is the best cup of real Darjeeling you've ever tasted too.

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blushingaswespeak · 02/08/2006 10:11

That is one way of putting it - I'm not complaining!! 'Getting there' was always a bit of a hit and miss affair before and though I uually got there it was not a powerful as I could achieve by myself. Now it is rather mad!

Jellyjelly - tie yourself down when you get there!!

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HappyDaddy · 02/08/2006 10:12

You ladies are filth.

jellyjelly · 02/08/2006 10:14

Arent you so glad you cam on today happy daddy.

HappyDaddy · 02/08/2006 10:14

That seems to be what you are all saying!

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blushingaswespeak · 02/08/2006 13:08

Yippee!!! Legs akimbo swinging from the chandelier! Were you really so innocent of 'girl talk' Happydaddy? It may not be quite the same as locker room banter but we do our best! Yes - dp has gone to work today with a huge grin on his face. He is the DADDY!

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magnolia1 · 02/08/2006 13:17

My Dh is quite happy today too!!!!

HappyDaddy · 02/08/2006 14:05

I should hope he is the daddy or you have some questions to answer, young lady.

TinyGang · 02/08/2006 14:11

I thought you meant immediately after giving birth!

MrsDoolittle · 02/08/2006 14:12

Funny you should say that. I've been dying to start a thread like this one.
I find the same

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blushingaswespeak · 02/08/2006 14:17

EEEeeek TG - the very thought. Couldn't imagine anything going on down there for months and am always amazed at what some couples manage so soon after birth. Mind you there was a thread on here not so long ago about orgasm during childbirth. I am a regular btw but have changed my name for obvious reasons!

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InForAPenny · 02/08/2006 14:22

Unfortunately I find it more difficult to orgasm since having DS, which is starting to get me down. I rarely used to have a problem with DH before, but now I find even "going solo" is often not very satisfying , with DH even worse.

Very of you ladies.

I thought maybe it was due to my pelvic floor being knackered..but reading this, perhaps not.

HunieBunie · 02/08/2006 14:43

I have found the same since having children. Have put it down to an improvement in the blood supply to my nerve endings

DarrellRivers · 02/08/2006 15:01

not a single orgasm after DD (LSCS)

back to normal after DS (VBAC)

very odd i thought

no idea why

purplemonkeydishwasher · 03/08/2006 09:48

I'm one of the unlucky ones i guess. IF i do get there it takes AGES and usually has to be done cunningly (nudge nudge wink wink) (although it is very very strong when it does happen)
The ONE time we managed proper intercourse it hurt so much that an orgasm was completely out of the question!!
It's frustrating cause sometimes i just feel so horny but ain't nothing happening!

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Kabsy · 03/08/2006 11:35

Agree with pmonkey takes AGES and needs the cuningly treatment. But has been more intense since DD. Went through a stage whilst trying to get prg with DD that it hardly ever happened and it always needed me to 'lend a hand'.(LOL) I put it down to trying too hard to catch. In single days it was not a problem. sighs wistfully - the ease not being single!!

MrsApron · 03/08/2006 11:41

Mine def weaker and less impressive since DD. I wonder if there is any link between cuts/tears and the end result.

I had an episiostomy and it took bloody ages to heal 10 weeks, my stiches burst and I am not convinced it healed all the way back to where it should have. Naomi Wolf in misconceptions refers to some midwifes referring to epis as cliterectomy (or something like that).

You lucky lucky ladies where it is better - did you have any cuts/tears?

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blushingaswespeak · 03/08/2006 11:46

I did have both MrsaApron - internal cuts and epesiotomy (sp?) - and 2 blood transfusions. I can't work it out either, though it did take me ages to get back into the idea of him coming anywhere near me (no pun intended!)

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MrsApron · 03/08/2006 12:23

well blush thats just not fair. All I can hope for now is that the next one sorts it out. Due in 4 weeks, sex in ohhh about a year then lol.