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Orgasm after childbirth....(blush)

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blushingaswespeak · 02/08/2006 08:20

Since having dd sex is pretty infrequent and it took us a long time to get going again (dd 9mths). These days, when we are both wide awake enough I find it so much easier to come and when I do it is sooooo strong it takes me a while to recover . Not complaining, in fact it is very lovely - it just seems like the whole sex thing has changed, what I like and where I like it iyswim. Is this unusual?

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morningpaper · 03/08/2006 12:28

Mine are DEFINITELY weaker since dd2 - an echo of my former experience

I put it down to shite pelvis floor tone - it probably DOES echo in there, frankly

FrannyandZooey · 03/08/2006 12:33

I find it trickier now. Probably a combination of butchered episiotomy (x2), breastfeeding, tiredness and just screwed up feelings about "mothers are not sexual". It still works though, so I am not complaining.

Hippyhoho · 03/08/2006 13:54

It is os good to hear other people talk like this. I am so horny all the time, DD is 10 months but DP is just not interested, hes the one that keeps banging on about having another as well, so I'm flying solo most of the time and they are better than ever before.

HappyDaddy · 03/08/2006 15:06

Well he aint gonna get another if he doesn't show some interest is he?

Maybe he's intimidated by your success "solo"?

Hippyhoho · 03/08/2006 15:24

I don't go solo when he is about, that is just for me.

HappyDaddy · 03/08/2006 15:31

It would be rude to do it in front of him, it would put him off his cereal!

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blushingaswespeak · 03/08/2006 16:07

OH my goodness - we've made the front page! Didn't realise that my sex life would be such big news!!!

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HappyDaddy · 03/08/2006 16:08

Really? I hope i didn't swear on this thread!

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blushingaswespeak · 03/08/2006 16:15

The joy of anonymity HappyDaddy!

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HappyDaddy · 03/08/2006 16:16

Is that the title of a new book?

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blushingaswespeak · 03/08/2006 16:18

Would be a cracking read!

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noodlekitkat · 03/08/2006 19:23

I haven't dropped my baby yet but I have been finding a bit of electric help quite useful these days.

dabihp · 03/08/2006 20:16

i can recommend ....

happiness...withbatteries

Tweezerqueen · 03/08/2006 20:47

Love this thread, the big O def got better after DD, tho I have a feeling I'm in my prime as a 30 yr old so may just be that???

Hippyhoho · 03/08/2006 22:35

So naughty Dabihp, but will have to get one of those!

Elf1981 · 03/08/2006 22:49

my dd is 10 months, first few months after DD born weren't that great but now, weyhey! Dunno why having DD would make a difference as I had a c-section! But I'm not going to complain

lazyanna · 03/08/2006 23:24

"sinners network" rofl

Heathcliffscathy · 03/08/2006 23:27

i can relate. both stronger and also different in terms of what gets me there.

obviously something changed down there when I gave birth!

kittylette · 04/08/2006 10:04

Its not much different i think, mind you we've never had problems with it. we had sex 2 weeks after my son was born and it was great, such a relief not to have that huge bump in the way!

maybe it is slightly more intense, but thats probably because we only do it once or twice a week, opposed to twice a day before we had kids!! lol

kittylette · 04/08/2006 10:07

oh forgot to add,

i think the birth does affect it, i had 2nd degree tear with DS1 and we didnt do it for months, and was very cautious and scared because i had been in pain for so long,

but with DS2 there werent even any grazes, and i felt amazing straight away!

claireh11 · 04/08/2006 15:22

Mine are nowhere near what they used to be before ds (3) was born.

We used to be at it like rabbits before he was born but now it's me who just cant be bothered, value my sleep too much lol

Strangely though I always feel at my randiest when dh is working nights and I find I have to go solo which is much more intense than when he's here.

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