His family want the toys they brought for my ds to go to his house!!

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Title says it all really, they want the toys they got my ds to go to x's house. I think it is really petty and just hurts ds.

Custard is right, you've got to not care what they think of you. It is my experience that saying no to this, that, or the other is a major feature of being separted from someone who is behaving like an arsehole. It all has to be water off of a ducks back otherwise it just upsets you and wares you down. Say no and make that the end of it, there is always some thing that they will have a go about, just wait till bloody Christmas comes around.

We're stillmarried, but Grandparents (paternal) STILL won't allow toys home, they stay there. As we never see them (MIL is evil so we stay away, and are very rarely invited anyhow) that means they see each set of toys once, then typically next time they go round old bat will have given the toys to a friend as 'they were never played with'

I am just thinking of his evil sister who i had lots of problems about the wedding that didnt happen, she will call as it was hers son originally as i think it is her that wants it back.

my mil did that - kept birthday and xmas pressies at her house. i have no idea why. i think she felt included somehow - it was definatley a passive aggressive thing at the mtime.

i let her geton with it. thought ill of her for many years then moved away

none of them called or his parents which is odd as we have a child together. Their loss and it really will be as i made all the effort for ds to know his family. He is gettign further away from them and nearer to mine which is fine with me but a bit unfair for ds but i cant do anything about that.

I think that's the best way, let them get on with it. If the boys ask I just say 'not everyone is very nice' which might sound cruel but it's true, and she is so ansty tp their faces. I don't get involved in debates about why yet, I don't think 'well she thinks I deliberately trapped your Dad into marrying me which is a joke coz he was a 28 year old virgin and I was about to get married to a rich bloke when I met him, and then she tried to destroy the wedding and sent FIL round to say I should call it off, and she kept a room ready for your dad so he could go home and leave me any time, and she expected dad to leave and give her all his money when FIL left and mortgage was difficult and she says that DS1 is a freak as he has Sn and said it to his face, and told your Dad he didnt know what a problem was after he tried suicide....'

Just not a convo you want with a 5 year old is it?

This happened with my xh, everything he bought for christmas and birthdays stayed at his house. Children were very upset as they saw him every other weekend at that time so not much time to play with their new toys. Downright petty and only hurts the children, people should seriously wake up and smell the coffee, it's his children that are being hurt.