Is anyone in a relationship but live seperately?

[ateddybearfromdelaware1]

Just that.

I'm thinking of moving me and ds (13 months) out. My partner cannot take the sleepless nights and is very grumpy about it, saying 'I have to work, you dont'.

He went away recently and it was very peaceful and tidy. He works from home so we're always in each others faces so maybe it help to have some space?

Is it crazy to even think about?

Well he's never been an arse to anyone he's calling, he's a gent on the phone.

Was talking to a close friend and she can't believe it as he is so lovely. She said it was an abusive relationship too

Oh God they are always 'so lovely' to others! It's a front, a personality they can pick up and put down - the arse is the 'real' guy. They usually are 'great dads' too

And as for your family, who may want you to try again, not break the family up etc... they are not the ones IN the relationship; they can advise but not force/coerce. And they should support you in your decision. After all, you have been trying for over a year, as he's had counselling that long. And it's not up to you to change anyway, it's up to him.

Glad to hear you have a friend who gets it.

Thanks for asking :)

I'm ok. We talked last night. He said he finds it hard sometimes to get out of a 'bad mood' because he has no one to talk to - no one neutral. I recommended individual counselling and he's going to research one nearby.

I explained that if things didn't improve by the end of the tenancy in August, I would take ds and go.

He said he finds it really hard to be woken up suddenly from a deep sleep (who doesn't) but he's agreed he can't react like that again.

Who knows how it'll pan out. All I know is, I can cope on my own, I have savings if I need to get out - he knows all this. He needs to decide if he wants to change, and how much

I'm in sales and I'm not vile to someone I supposedly love.
His job is no excuse at all