Posted about this just over a week ago. H has been having an online EA for about a year, on and off. Has also been trying to contact other women online, as far as I can tell unsuccessfully. There's a whole bunch of other stuff in the background I'm unhappy about (he's moved out of family bed, drinks too much, is generally very critical of me and my family, tells me I don't do enough housework etc.) We have a nearly 3-year old.
I've confronted him about this woman before. He totally denied and I swallowed it, largely because didn't have the energy to deal with it. Confronted him again last night, said I knew he was lying, had hard evidence etc (which I do).
He has reacted saying a) he can't trust me anymore (because I snooped) b) that this proves he needs to move out and c) that I'm paranoid.
I'm gutted. Somewhere in the back of my mind I really hoped that he would say "I'm really sorry, I love you, lets make this work." Not a bit of it. I know instinctively that his behaviour proves that he needs to ship out but for half an hour last night I found myself wondering if he was right and I was just causing fights, being paranoid and driving him out.
I just feel, right when I should be feeling brave, really really wobbly. Am absolutely dreading telling our DD. Feel really really low. Can someone give me a good talking to?