So, my life been a 'well known' joke for 6 month.......cheating liar..

[oopsadaisyme]

Okay, so things not been the best and he left just before xmas....

But now find out he's been with someone else for 6 bloody months, stashing money, lying about work, telling everyone lies about me, blaming me for things that haven't even happened to gain sympathy from his friends, all to set up this new life of his with this other person -

I couldn't of give a shit when he left, we were not getting on, but now I know why, it was all planned -

I'm so bloody hurt, and just feel totally stupid for not knowing, the fact so many people I thought were friends were involved in this is hurting so much, what the bloody hell has he told them, it's all lies, just to set himself up with someone else??? why do that?? Money is why, used me and the kids to set himself up -

And now they all gone on holiday together I've found out -

Arsehole

Hissy thank you xxx much needed xxxxxxx

Need a glass of wine x

where can I make new friends like this in Rl???xx

If you let us know whereabouts you are, someone will be near you!

When my life went kapow, the best support I had came from Mumsnet! PMs from some truly special people. To this day.

We're way more than words on a screen!

I have a winebox.. help yourself! :)

Friends like this are all around, daisy. Spread your wings a little bit, and leave the other losers behind.

My ex cheated on me for two years, then when he got caught he told everyone that he had been trapped in a physically abusive relationship with me . Noone believed him thankfully, including the police.

I am sorry you are going through this. When someone stoops this low it only server to prove how much better off you are without them in your life.

*serves

You don't need 'new' friends... these people were never your friends to begin with! Where are you? How old are your DC's?
Friends come from anywhere... school playground,mothers and toddlers, work, local coffee shop, MN local, library, new hobby?

You are worth so much more than you realise and life WILL GET BETTER!

My aunt's husband spent a year telling her she was going crazy. Even went to visit her GP to express his worry over her mental state. She started to believe him and isolated herself from the family as well as all her social circle.

Turned out he'd been having an affair with one of their friends for a couple of years and wanted to leave, but didn't want to lose the kids. So he was intending to have her sectioned so he would get custody (this was in the 1980s). He knew full well there was nothing wrong with her, he just wanted to end up with the house, kids, most of his earnings and everyone feeling sorry for his cheating sociopathic backside.

She's an Outstanding primary school headmistress now, incidentally. Very successful, happy and extremely together - she'd been a SAHM and professional wife to his career before. Was a hard and long road but personally I think her life is infinitely better for the divorce. He was an absolute arsehole and when he died of a heart attack a couple of years ago, all I could think was thank God they weren't still married.

This is hell on wheels, but at least you will soon be rid of this complete shit on a permanent basis - you are worth so much more.

Thanks all xx

Having a duvet day with my youngest today - Bedknobs and Broomsticks/ Mary Poppins-ing it!!! (he's a singer!!! Why don't they make movies like this anymore!!!??)

Got a roast on the go for when Ds1 comes home from school, then movie night - (got a big bag of popcorn ready).

Sod it all to the world right now, not answering phone, nothing - just need quiet with my fab boys (and I'm feeling v lucky, they're fantastically funny, dancing to 'lets fly a kite' with my wonderful 4 year old this morning, impossible to feel low!) Even with no sleep- xx

A great choice of films to cheer you up.!!!

Flat I'll take some of that cake, ta v much xx

It will be little comfort to know that my ex did the same and made up similar lies about me - told the OW I was mentally unwell, an abuser, how unhappy we were, etc. All the while telling me how much he loved and adored me. Ironic that twice he has crawled back and told me the OW is bipolar, how unhappy they are, he only stayed with her as he had nowhere else to go etc. Take comfort in the fact that nobody who knows you will believe his lies, and many who don't know you will not care a jot.

Make sure you tell your friends the truth - their support, and belief in you, in the coming months will be invaluable to you.