Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Flip

1 2 3

Original poster

So, my life been a 'well known' joke for 6 month.......cheating liar..

64 replies

oopsadaisyme · 07/01/2014 14:19

Okay, so things not been the best and he left just before xmas....

But now find out he's been with someone else for 6 bloody months, stashing money, lying about work, telling everyone lies about me, blaming me for things that haven't even happened to gain sympathy from his friends, all to set up this new life of his with this other person -

I couldn't of give a shit when he left, we were not getting on, but now I know why, it was all planned -

I'm so bloody hurt, and just feel totally stupid for not knowing, the fact so many people I thought were friends were involved in this is hurting so much, what the bloody hell has he told them, it's all lies, just to set himself up with someone else??? why do that?? Money is why, used me and the kids to set himself up -

And now they all gone on holiday together I've found out -

Arsehole

OP posts:

Tonandfeather · 07/01/2014 16:24

I couldn't stand by and watch a friend play unwitting russian roulette with her sexual health. Those are no friends of yours and I hope you've got others.

Tuhlulah · 07/01/2014 16:28

What a complete and utter bastard. How can he not have given his children a Christmas present and now be living it up in Vegas. What a prize for any woman and child he is.

I saw on your other thread what a dreadfully hard time you are having even feeding your children while this wanker is living it up elsewhere. I hope you have found some help and things are starting to get a little easier.

Being a bastard to you is one thing, and quite bad enough, but being a bastard to his children, and seeing them go without the most basic of necessities while he is larging it in Vegas is quite another thing altogether. He is shameless and shameful. Disgusting.

Oopsadaisy, you are being remarkably strong. I am speechless about this fucker. He is vile and contemptible and you and your children are so well shot of him. I would want to shout to the world what he has done, so you are a better person than me for not outing him to everyone who knows him. Good luck, I wish you so well. X

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 07/01/2014 16:32

My ex done similar op.Although he really had it down to a T.For ages he had been telling his friends lies about me,saying we were not together and was some weird stalker,saying I wouldn't allow contact with his son and when I did he wad babysitting.

That entire time he was taking me out,telling me he loved me,making plans and sharing my bed!

Of course,he got another woman,I was oblivious to it all,told her all the shit (and she was married and lying too) then found out on a fucking forum.

My heart goes to you,because I know how much it hurts and how humiliated you feel.Like the whole world was laughing.Look after yourself because this kind of deception and betrayal is bloody hard to get over.

Just promise me that you will not,even for one ,wonder what is wrong with you to deserve this,because you don't and there is nothing wrong with you.It's HIM

Original poster

oopsadaisyme · 07/01/2014 16:41

tuhlulah thanks v much xx remarkably strong, I don't think so - If I was, I'd be telling all our friends my side, but I'm not like him, using people to get what he wants, I'm just hoping others will see him for what he is, and I'll keep my distance for now - I'm not being dragged into this anymore, his lies could be hurtful to me and the boys, and I'm not letting that happen

And no ponytail lol, tattoos and shaved head thinking he's a 'personality' and alot younger because of his job -

OP posts:

Tuhlulah · 07/01/2014 16:50

He thinks he's younger then he is because of his job? Is he a policeman, because they do seem to be getting terribly young these days...or a nursery teacher?

Wanker.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 07/01/2014 16:57

Ex was similar with that too.His second job is Ski instructor.He works with lots of younger people,including teens,and is just as immature!At 29/30 he thought it was perfectly normal for him to be going away on his own with a 16/17 yo female friend,or hanging out with one instead of his own child

Original poster

oopsadaisyme · 07/01/2014 16:57

trip oh my god, totally the same- i'm sorry, but so glad someone has been through this similar - humiliation is killing mexxxxx

I don't even care he's with someone else (he treated me like shit, and I got shit because I was the young one after his wife, now he's with younger it would seem) it was the lies (for 6 months!!), him sleeping with me, (i feel sick), stashing money, using us to save for his new life and leaving us in the total shit- and now flaunting it about like some twenty year old, blaming me, while flashing his saved cash???!!!!!

Btw, his wife left him, they were married for 16 years, and I was 27 (11 years between) stupid me -

OP posts:

Original poster

oopsadaisyme · 07/01/2014 16:59

Nope, he's works in the 'nightclub' industry, I'll leave it there....

OP posts:

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 07/01/2014 17:04

Tbh oops it's nice to know somebody else has been through it for me too.It's nearly two years since I found out now -got a message from the other woman and she started sharing all his lies online for me to see,because she believed him and thought she should put me in my place LMFAO!me in my place?!?!?!It still hurts now,the lies,that really is the worst bit.Seriously damaged my confidence knowing all that and knowing how people thought of me.

Keep your chin up hun,that's the best you can do.And if anyone tries telling you what that prick says you are and believes it,Don't get too involved trying to prove them wrong.It'll drive you nuts

Original poster

oopsadaisyme · 07/01/2014 17:09

Trip thanks - and why I've come off certain sites and blocking my phone - heard enough for now - don't want to know anymore for now

OP posts:

annielouisa · 07/01/2014 17:20

I feel for you but they cannot have been that good friends to believe his lies. Not telling you about an affair because they do not want to be caught in the middle is sad but understandable but allowing him to be so devious and obviously knowing his plans is dreadful.

I imagine this sad old Peter Pan has moved onto a younger model. You are well rid of him. I know it hurts now but just focus on what counts, that is you and your DC.

Original poster

oopsadaisyme · 07/01/2014 17:54

Oh, he's a well accomplished liar - just got a fantastic text - my god, some people are genious ---

OP posts:

Blossomflowers · 07/01/2014 18:13

Hey oops must be the day for stupid txts. care to share?

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 07/01/2014 18:28

Six months of him lying and cheating on you, delusions of his own unending magnetism. Ever younger partners won't hold time back! Good description annielouisa "Peter Pan". A shallow and lying one at that.

How desperate was he if he had to lie about your MH. Someone will wonder at some point why, if you are so bad to live with, he deserted his DCs and ran out on them.

Do you have rl support?

He can buy friends and kid himself he's still got it but you are better off without him. Your DCs don't need that kind of role model.

Original poster

oopsadaisyme · 07/01/2014 18:58

Well im stupid because ive just kicked off over a text he's just sent accusing me of fighting all the time - arn't I being made to be the mug

OP posts:

AnyFucker · 07/01/2014 19:10

Please just ignore him. he is obviously baiting you. Don't give him what he wants.

Original poster

oopsadaisyme · 07/01/2014 19:13

Just been told to look around me, he's the only person I have.........what the fucking hell is going on in his mind?????

OP posts:

AnyFucker · 07/01/2014 19:14

Just leave it daisy. It's a mindfuck. Delete and ignore.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 07/01/2014 19:24

It may not even be him using his phone so just ignore.

Hissy · 07/01/2014 19:26

Listen up oops

Look around you indeed. Right here you have hundreds of people that are feeling for you, that do genuinely care and want to smash this dickhead's face in. Lean on us! We're real people, and you can carry us around in your pocket, and cry on our shoulders 24 hours a day.

He doesn't have that! If he had fuck all money, he'd have fuck all going on. The money he had was made off the back of you. If normal people knew the truth, they'd be horrified.

That's why wankers like him have to go to such lengths to spin lies about you. Because it needs to be outrageous for other (dimwitted) people to believe.

As for your 'friends' you have every right to want to distance yourself from them. Karma has a way of tripping them up.

You however are better than all of them, and if they are the only choice of people to have around you in RL, you're better off alone.

He's gone, good riddance, so chin up and rise above this.

You may be down, but not beaten, you will rise again.

He however will always be a wanker.

Hissy · 07/01/2014 19:27

Now block his number, change it actually and leave em all for dust!

CSIJanner · 07/01/2014 19:37

Listen to Hissy - her post makes a lot of sense x

Mrscaindingle · 07/01/2014 19:43

Hissy

Go girlfriend !!

mammadiggingdeep · 07/01/2014 19:43

Don't even respond to the texts. It's all rubbish and he's not clever because its what every other nasty twunt does.

Been there got the t shirt. Apparently I was shout in bed. That's why he must have stayed with me for 8.5 years.... Yep, I can see that. Idiot.

mammadiggingdeep · 07/01/2014 19:44

Hissy. Yes, yes!!

Flip

1 2 3

Swipe left for the next trending thread