Advice is this moving too fast !

[Tia2005]

Ok so I put this post on a couple of days ago ::I met this guy 2 weeks ago this sat I've met him when I was out and I've met up with him 1 other time we talk on the phone everyday , he's says he loves me and wants kids with me and to marry me , he's told me a lot about himself he says he gets injections for stress and he says the doctors said he's got mental health . I just think this is moving too fast I told him that and it upset him I need advice please:::
After a lot of advice I ended things today I saw him in town and talked to him he says he does have schizophrenia and I told him things were moving to fast he's sayin we can slow things down should I give him a second chance

Your other thread is 136posts long. Are you expecting advice to be different this time?

No

No !

You have ended it. Leave it ended OP.

This is your other thread. Are you hoping everyone will suddenly say "Yes, you should give him another chance?"

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1954881-Advice-please-Is-this-moving-too-fast

So have you ended it or not?

Yes I've ended it but after seeing him in town today I was thinking about taking him back I no it's not a good idea I just wish I never met the guy

I haven't read your other thread but declarations of love and marriage after only two weeks are a pretty big red flag.

From what others have said, if you have ended it then it would be best to leave it be.

I've read both threads and I think you're either a troll or bonkers to even consider seeing this man. The whole thing has car crash written all over it.

And I don't see why you can't block him. Can't you phone your phone company and get them to block his number if you can't do it on your phone directly?

You have answered your own question. It's moving too fast, he has issues that concern you. You've ended it.

What do you want advice on, exactly?

Don't do it OP.

Why on earth did you meet him in town? No second chances.

Why another thread? Were you hoping we'd all say 'Yeah no problem, a guy who wants to marry you and have children after knowing you a fortnight is probably fine! Don't delay - hook up today, because he must be totally in love with you!"

Well sorry, but we won't. You know that little voice in your head that says 'I'm uneasy about this'? - It's your common sense. Use it.

What is the problem here? You've known him two weeks and he's a nightmare. Where's the dilemma?

Why would you even consider this? Do you really want to have a relationship with a man with schizophrenia? bring him in to your childs life? An ex of mine developed schizophrenia and I can assure you it is hell for those around them.

You don't think its a coincidence you've seen him in town today? Unless of course you arranged to meet? Please say you didn't!!!! Could he be stalking you? A hell of a coincidence just to bump into him just days after you finished it and he was bombarding you with texts from various phones.

Have now read your other thread. When did you last have a relationship? What was it like? Do you have a positive experience of relationships with men? Also, if you don't mind answering, how old are you?

I am a bit worried that you can't see that this relationship could be challenging. It sounds like he has already intimated that if you were to leave him he may harm himself. Apologies if I have misinterpreted but that's what it sounded like. If you cant see the obvious red flags I wonder if you need to do some work on yourself before you get into a relationship. Do you have any children?

I have a close relative who has paranoid schizophrenia for which she receives treatment. A fragile but lovely woman and what she doesn't do is go around telling men that she's fallen in love with them and wants to have their babies in the space of a few days. You're not rejecting him because he has a MH condition. You're rejecting him because his behaviour is very alarming.

I'm 30 got a 8 yr old daughter.i didn't arrange to meet him I just saw him in town ,

I agree with a PP.... from your previous descriptions this man will not give up and most likely arranged your 'chance encounter'.

My older brother is schizophrenic. He has never, to my knowledge, propositioned a potential new girlfriend with marriage and children, within a fortnight of meeting.

You have an eight year old daughter!! Why would you even consider pursuing this? I am confused.

I think it would be better for you and your daughter if you didn't take up with this guy. Not just because he is schizophrenic, but because reading your last thread there are signs that suggest he is emotionally abusive. Please don't cave in. You could find a much more stable man than this.

you don't think it is a coincidence that you happen to bump into him in town? The fact that he was the same place as you would start ringing alarm bells for me - hmmm what are the chances of that happening?

Apart from the ego boost, what is good about him?

He sounds very needy and unstable, is it in your daughter's interest to allow this man into both of your lives? Could he potentially pose a threat to her. I say this because if he is conniving enough to arrange a chance meeting and to essentially stalk you, then these are indicators that he is not bringing good energy to your lives.

I just wish I never met the guy OP, this is from one of your posts above.

Whatever his situation, you do not owe him a relationship.

I replied on your other thread to tell you no one gets injections for "stress", but for schizophrenia. He's now confirmed this.

He lied to you about his mental health, and has exhibited some symptoms of someone with schizophrenia that isn't optimally controlled - protestations of love, not letting you go when you say that its over.

Also red flags in someone without MH problems.

Please don't continue the relationship.