What does your partner bring into your life?

[wangle99]

DH and I aren't having the best relationship at the moment. Basically I am his slave - I've become his mother . I was talking to a friend earlier also have relationship issues with her DH and she was trying to work out what he brings into their relationship.

I have been trying the same...

DH brings into our relationship; his wages from working full time. Sex occasionally.

I bring into relationship; wages from being self employed and working 3/4 time, sex occasionally, all housework, childcare, bill paying etc

What does your DH/partner/BF bring into your relationship? I'm seriously wondering if we have a future

DH brings:-

His wage (less than mine at the min)
Sex (fairly frequently)
Lots of love & attention
Fun
Stability
His calming influence
Companionship

I realise I'm v lucky because he's my best friend. We were friends before we got involved with each other and I think that helped. We fell in love over time rather than the full on lust phase (IYKWIM)

Short answer, money and nothing else We're separated and at the counselling session yesterday he admitted that he didn't love me so guess that's the end for us. Tricky as we're in the States so hoping that it's salvagable as we want our green card

Love
comfort
support
friendship
sex
wage
irritation
smelly socks
and bloody football!

Oh thats a shame alipiggie.

DP too is my best friend. We also fell in love over time and as the years go by the more I think I respect and care for him and him me, we just prefer each other's company to anyone else and we both have quite complex personalities so each understand the other.

So overall he brings happiness into my life (sorry if that sounds sickly).

Sorry that read wrong, I meant the physically paying of them and sorting out all financial issues ie insurance, mortgage down to tv licence etc!

Ok I'd like to add smelly socks lol and also some support when it suits him.

wangle- I have been feeling very much the same as you recently.I definitely can relate to when you say'I have become his mother'. it is pants when you feel you have all the responsibilty for keeping it together.
i have been asking dp in the past few days 'why did you get married?' because i have begun to wonder why he did.

You need to sit and talk about this then, I assume you signed up for marriage not slavery. Counselling? Or, if youcan't afford it/arrange it then talk about it at least. No wonder you're pissed off, who wouldn't be, quite frankly?

love
laughter
comfort
friendship
soulmate
wage
football
golf (at the open at the mo)
fantastic sex

My DH brings,
love
laughter
money
sex
is a great dad
a relative share of household chores
snoring
his own 'unique'sense of style

Maybe your dh doen't realise how he's behaving? maybe he thinks he is doing enough, he might be surprised to discover how your feel. Have you talked to him?

He brings..

Love
Security
Happiness
A wage
Sex
Fun
Support
Untidyness
Friendship
Companion/my soulmate
Energy/Motivation (he has lots of it)

My dp brings me:
A sense of security and stability
Knowledge that I am loved
Pleasure
Fun and laughter
Cuddles
Friendship
Gossip
Actual physical help, ie digging and lifting in the garden, carrying shopping
Unfortunately he also brings cigarette smoke and a grumpy face at times. But I love him dearly and wouldn't be without him for the world .

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Yesterday DH brought mud into my life, more specifically onto my living room carpet. Where did he find mud in this bloody heat?

A measure of calm

wangle, your list is a list of chores and responsibilities. I'm sure there's more than that.

Do you know, whenever I try to make a list about dh, it always sounds so paltry. I only know that I've not met a man who can hold a candle to him in the last 15 years.

me and my DH have only been married a few years but have an 18 mth old, things use to be great. but not lately all i seem to be hearing is "i dont do nothing at all" i just sit at home and watch tv and sleep. I'm the one that pays all the bills, house chores, food shopping, taking care of my DS, paying his business bills, etc

am i being selfish?

DH brings:-
wage
sex (occasionaly)
being a dad occasionaly
sometimes laughter

very upset today, i bloody hate him

at the moment money and dirty washing
He works away 5/7 days
[sigh]

Love
Sex
Money
Brilliant dad
Support
Hilariously funny
Toe nail clippings
Stinky socks

seriously he brings
warmth
affection
generosity
cups of tea in bed on weekends
he laughs every time I bring home another puppy or kitten, depsite banning me.
He is pretty adorable all told...
I love him to bits
I am a SAHM and I am happy that I do more at home, but I ask him to help if I need and he does. He also does a lot without being asked.