worse things about OH

[tiamariaxxx]

Wonder if many of us ladies have the same bug bears :)

In no particular order -

1. Pees on the floor (MISSING THE LOO, NOT PURPOUSLY PEEING ANYWHERE )
2. Easilly lead by friends
3. Is a show off in front of people
4. Does his best to try impress people, wants everyone to like him
5. His past (know it shouldnt matter but still is in back of my head)
6. Stroppy
7. Messy

Contempt is scientifically shown to be a relationship killer.

Did I say, or even imply my partner was perfect. Neither is he a Prince Among Men and his cock studded with diamonds

but when people are treating as "lighthearted" behaviour that shows a complete lack of respect (has no boundaries"...wtf does that mean?) then I think that, yes, there really is no comparison

that he lives in the same house?

He has poor boundaries is what I said.

I meant that he agrees to doing everything everyone asks him to do, consequently taking on more than he can do and letting people down. He has implemented no structure in his work or social life which compounds this effect and one spills into the other. He has a voluntary role attached to his work which legally should be entirely separate but he fails to avoid pressure to do the voluntary role during work hours, he can't say no and he goes along with things without thinking and sometimes gets on dodgy ground of various kinds that he doesn't really understand how to extricate himself from.

Have a certain amount of sympathy with him over that tbh but not enough to put up with it over a period of time. It is quite annoying.

But like I say; he needs to grow up. I'm aware not everyone does. If he doesn't we'll split up.

At 28, how much more time (and parenting) does he need ?

It's a little irrelevant that he hasn't grown up before. I'm only bothered about whether he is someone I want to be with in a way I want to be with him. I don't think it is particularly unforgivable to be immature at 28 especially being the youngest in a large family. If he persists it will piss me off and I won't want to be with him. He'll go on his merry way being immature and it'll no longer affect me!

But as he says, it is quite a lot more important that he sorts out the rest of his life and his work because it is negatively affecting how he manages to work in his dream job.

He is a messy bugger
He hoards random shit he thinks he wants but that even he doesn't want
He has a GPS but cannot locate the fucking wash basket. We have two.
He will not compromise on pasta & pesto or other such quick meal.
He cannot prioritise. The job he wants to do first is the one he does first.
Utterly incapable of criticism when it comes to DIY. Which is a pain
because so is my Dad and they could both learn from each other's errors.
Most infuriating thing ever? I can get ready in 30mins. He needs an hour, but he absolutely insists on setting his alarm for 7, then 7:15. I don't need to get up until 7:50 so I think it's utter cuntishness not to set one alarm, but he won't amend it.

1. too stubborn & hardheaded, which causes tension at times. He does come around to thinking rationally so we sort things out, but it can take ages.
2. Almost OCD about tidiness, I call him God's Lieutenant as everything has to be shipshape at all times. However he's not averse to doing it himself which is fine, I just dont want a convo about housework it can very easily bore me to sleep.

Luckily I love all else about him, he has a good heart

Leaves every aspect of organising to me (money, household stuff, social life) and consequently 'puts off' everything that I can't do

Leaves his socks and shoes where he takes them off, even if in the middle of the living room floor

There must be more but I can't think off the top of my head... don't have any toileting issues since we reached a mutual agreement to put the toilet lid down completely after each uses it (therefore we both have to lift to use!), he doesn't snore, cooks all my food (breakfast, lunch and dinner!), does his share of the housework and helps out with other things when I ask.

He's a gem.

Sydlexic: Nail/head. However difficult it is for men to pee without dribbling, it would be so damn easy for them to clean up after themselves.

I couldn't move in with a guy who left piss everywhere because he expected that the magic pixie cleaning fairy (who happens to be female) would clean up after him.