My fiancé and I are expecting a baby in March. It was a planned pregnancy but since it was confirmed he's been 'acting up'. He blames most of his behaviour on his bipolar disorder, but unfortunately I do suspect he's using it as an excuse to justify how he's acting. It's not mood swings a few times a year (as most typical bipolar people experience) but rather a couple of times a month.
He had cheated just before we found out I was pregnant. It was a 1 night thing and he came clean about it rather than waiting to get caught.
A couple of months later, he went out with a friend and failed to come home. I got worried and at 6am I sent his friend a Facebook message. At 7, fiancé walked in the front door. He said he slept at the friend's house but the friend for some reason never answered me despite me being able to see he was online. He didn't think of sending me a FB message from the friend's house when his phone died and he ended up missing the last metro home. He was extremely apologetic and promised it wouldn't happen again.
Since then, he's been going out with a different friend whose contact details I don't have. It's become quite frequent. I'm trying not to be the person who doesn't want her partner going out drinking simply becsuse she can't.
Today, he asked me if I'd been on his amazon account. Several different items of lingerie have randomly appeared on his wish list. I didn't put them there. Someone obviously must have though.
He's been completely off sex and blames it on psychological stuff surrounding the pregnancy.
He had another mood swing tonight and expressed that he wanted to go out. He acknowledged that he's been out most weekends recently and said he felt bad. Though I was obviously upset, I told him I'd rather he go out than stay in when he was clearly in a horrendous mood. I did query how it was possible for him to go out though when we had no money. He said the friend would pay for him. She then 'coincidentally' called while we were discussing the fact that I don't feel like I'm able to let off any steam. They had a very quick conversation in his native language, which I don't speak.
He insists that he didn't have anything planned with her and that it was a complete coincidence.
It occurred to me after he went out that it would have been very presumptuous of him to state before a discussion with the friend that she would pay for him for the night. The only reason I can see that he'd do this is if he'd paid for her frequently in the past with our money.
He's still not home. The last metro has been and gone. I called to see if he needed a lift and I had no answer. That was about 40 minutes ago.
What do people think?