This is more of a rant, into the void of the internet. Long, sorry.
My family are a bunch of assholes. I always tell myself I won't let them piss me off again, but they always, always manage to push my buttons.
My grandparents are moving into a retirement home. This is long overdue; they can't take care of the house or themselves anymore. Last week, seeing the house packed up with a For Sale sign made me sad, even though the home was never a happy one. They just seemed so beaten down and at a loss. When they asked me to come by the following week for dinner, I agreed. They needed support, I thought.
From the moment I got in the door this evening, I was berated for:
-not visiting enough with DD and that's why she won't kiss them on demand (she's 16mo)
-not letting DD eat an orange before dinner
-not "warming" DD's high chair after we brought it in from the car
-turning off the TV after DD constantly switched it on and off.
My grandmother said I was cruel, like her mother was. She said DD would hate me when she's older. She said that DH and I were "not natural parents."
I told her this hurt me and she told me she was "just having fun." I told her it wasn't fun if it was hurtful. She told me I'm to sensitive.
Best part....
THEIR RETIREMENT HOME IS ACROSS THE STREET FROM OUR HOUSE.
I called my mother and told her this. Her reply was, they're old and having a hard time with the move.
When I said I refused to visit regularly due to the anxiety and stress they cause, my mother said "But there's a pool! DD would love it."
WHAT.THE.FUCK.
Thank you 