The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Walking In A Winter Sober Land!

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Hello Brave Babes, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the 'Bus Of Fun' (now you've come of age!)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, with a view to quitting or not... it's up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in your hands. And only you can make it happen.

Whatever your goal, you'll find support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking and those who fall off the Bus (arse over tit) will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY thread would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers. :)

That said, this Bus is happy to have you no matter what, as long as you can cope with chat of drinking, nights out/in, failures, cyclical drinkers, etc......

Everyone has always been welcome here and shall remain to be.

No-one is ever turned away. EVER.

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

The rest kind of happens as the posts appear.

I hope that's okay with you all.

You'll find the last thread HERE, THAT WILL LEAD TO THREADS BEFORE IT, SOME HISTORY

And the original and real, truly heartfelt reason that we are here in the first place is HERE. A VERY SOBERING READ

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, honest and will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Checking in. Well done on those resolutions beaches sounds great and doing it with your DH will be really encouraging.

Struggling today. Had too much last night (although surely not more than everyone else? But I get argumentative when drunk, and had a row with DH....)

I've said I'll do dry January, and anyway would not want anything right now, at least not til much later. (By which time we'll be back home - and there isn't any wine there!)

In the meantime, am stuck here with a foul-tempered DH, and a sulky DD - and me caught in the middle, trying to keep the peace.

Happy New Year all brave babes. I'll be checking in a bit more soon xxx

quick check in. how are all the dry january babes doing so far?
the witching hour is upon us so stand firm.

All good here thank you ma
I have a special bottle of Belvoir rose and elderflower cordial which makes me feel all Victorian lady :o DH has only had a small glass of wine and we are currently menu planning for next week. I am off to work later so have now passed the critical point for having a drink and being able to drive by work time so a success for day one :)

Hi just jumping on the bus to say that today is day 1 for me.

I had rather a lot to drink last night so I am finding it very easy today to abstain. Feeling very determined but I also realise that it will get harder

Hi brave babes. Good luck to all of you in dry January. I will be joining you on the 4th as going to stay with friends tomorrow for a bit of a break. Struggled a bit over the holidays but not been too wasted. Have a lot to deal with in New Year, including finding new job and working out what to do about my marriage, as time at home makes me realise how much I dislike my negative, antisocial husband, who I think is only still here as I pay for everything with the earnings from the job I hate while he pursues his selfish writing dream and I even pay for a cleaner when he is home all day. All this becomes clearer after a drink but I know I can't act on it unless I am sober, so here's to you all, I will be,sticking on this lovely bus in 2014. Take care lovely babes, hope we all achieve our dreams this year x

For those of you going dry in January- best of luck ladies.
I'll give you a laugh. Since all this happened I had to take a job quickly. What
am I doing when I go to work? Im a bartender. All night every night I work with alcohol.
Drinking is a choice. We make that choice on a daily basis. Dont think of it as a month without alcohol. Think of it as a day without it. 30 days in a row.

Watch the weight fall off, clearer skin, less puff and better sleep. Go forth Brave Babes, and reap the rewards!

Haha,that is ironic Why. Funnily enough when I worked in a bar watching everyone throw money away to act like idiots it put me off drink, so it may help you out! Happy New Year babe x

I'm here Ma, I'm back at work tomorrow so that helps with the not drinking. I'm trying to make some plans for the weekend as that's where I'm likely to slip up....

Hi Babes,

just got back from NYs day party. I am back to Day 1 but I drove, had 2 glasses of Cava and 3 cups of tea, plenty to eat. Watching others get drunk (some hadn't been to bed from night before) made me realise that I prefer myself without excessive drink inside me
Quite proud of my self-control and I seem to have found my 'off' button

Why I used to work in a cocktail bar year ago and never drank when I was working - people really can put it away and watching them waste all of that money on ice with a little bit of alcohol it's an eye opener.

Hope sounds like you've got alot to sort out, one step at a time babe, this time of year is a real time for reflections on life. I wish you strength and clarity

Beaches so pleased that DH is doing it with you, you could have your own bus How's the snow doing? it's still raining sheets here and soooo windy.

I'm

Have a good evening all x

Hello Babes

Thank you ma for reminding me about Dry January - I was already starting to waver! I remember you have a similar situation, playing piggy in the middle between your DH and your DD2 ? It's exhausting …

Day 1 done and dusted babes:)

Day 1 done. A jigsaw helped me while away the drinking hours. Well done all of you. Day 1 again tomorrow.
alias yes, I did. And it is exhausting. You have my sympathy!

Thanks for your encouraging words lovely spanna. I have the same ideas every year, but this year I feel I can make a difference with the help of this bus - thank you all x

I don't want my own bus spanna I like it here . We are all set for another snow storm and it is bloody freezing, at least we have lots of sunshine in the daytime. I know the UK has had some seriously rough weather though, causing havoc. Well done on your control at the party and finding your off button.

I went to a family lunch and had 2 alcohol free beers so did fine on that score. The diet went spectacularly off course when all sweet things I could find I stuffed in my mouth - must be my period tomorrow!

Well done joey, hope, Ma, obrigada, Anne, mrsm, bob on day 1 (and all other babes that are doing it but didn't post!)

why a bartender, of all the jobs!! I like the reminder of making a choice each day and letting the days line up, feels less overwhelming than facing a big chunk of future at once.

Wondering how you are rural

Take care all xx

Day 2 begins.

Good luck everyone, stay strong x

Day 2, up earlier and easier than I have been for the past few weeks. Good luck everyone :)

Hello. Just checking in. Suffering from those awful first few days AF symptoms so not feeling particularly bright or sparky. Or anything really. Just slogging through this. By next week I may even be able to think. xx

Hi keep going sober soc

I realise dry January has already begun I plan on joining in now I want a challenge and I'm sick of it feeling rubbish

Join us I'm. Who cares when you start. I'm also so fed up of feeling disgusting. Imagine how different we will all feel in a couple of weeks. I'm going to try and post a lot because that really helps me - all you lovely babes will just have to suffer through my tedious ramblings. x

Start now I'm, realistically I bet most people doing dry January had a drink in the early hours of Jan 1st, I know I did!

sobersoc I've been reading an online blog (Mrs d is going without) and when she was feeling tempted she visualised how she would feel going to bed without having drunk, waking up in the morning etc. That's what I'm trying to do - if I imagine how bad I'll feel if I drink, the ww argues back...

Ok count me in

Thanks annie. I'll check out that blog.

Yay! We have snared I'm!

slept very badly so feel like shite. The first few AF days are crap but will persevere and see if i can develop a going back to work boing by Monday.

anymore for joining us today?