The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Walking In A Winter Sober Land!

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Hello Brave Babes, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the 'Bus Of Fun' (now you've come of age!)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, with a view to quitting or not... it's up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in your hands. And only you can make it happen.

Whatever your goal, you'll find support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking and those who fall off the Bus (arse over tit) will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY thread would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers. :)

That said, this Bus is happy to have you no matter what, as long as you can cope with chat of drinking, nights out/in, failures, cyclical drinkers, etc......

Everyone has always been welcome here and shall remain to be.

No-one is ever turned away. EVER.

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

The rest kind of happens as the posts appear.

I hope that's okay with you all.

You'll find the last thread HERE, THAT WILL LEAD TO THREADS BEFORE IT, SOME HISTORY

And the original and real, truly heartfelt reason that we are here in the first place is HERE. A VERY SOBERING READ

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, honest and will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Hi ma I really wish I had an office to go to! I'm stuck inside with the dc and they have trashed the place today all that money on toys! And I get wet tissue stuck to my bathroom walls
This is going to be a long week ....

Hey babes. Just checking in to say I will joining all for dry January.

Blaming isindie is always a good idea, I feel.
Hey obrigada good to see you. Think there will be quite a few of us going for dry..maybe someone clever could make a list?
why I feel your pain. Its a long long holiday in cold crappy weather.
thurso how are the hols going? Any torpedoes to dodge
purps are you ok? and you mouse?

Lots of babes very quiet, hope you ate all ok

Not why, that was meant for I'm

Hi babes, just a quick check in. I am in the sidecar again tonight, but will join you all for dry January! DP bought me a juicer for chrimbo so will be slurping on concoctions such as apple, red cabbage and lime. Had one this morning, nicer than it sounds! Sorry not to name check, welcome to newbies, it's as good a time as any to join in the fun on this bus! Still thinking of those who've found this time of year tough. Next year will be better! Loves xxx

Ooh, scary indie.

I was thinking of you today as met a friend for coffee in one of the places I met with you and Venus
How are things with you and dp? Bloody well done on the AF and walk. I'm right behind you sister. I want to look fab for the awards dinner in March. And I want a full length beaded gown, a la Downtown Abbey. Get looking girls.

I plan to lose a stone by then and previous experience suggests the norkage will be heavily hit! If I could keep the Norks and lose the gut I would be happy.

beaches I have about half a dozen Jillian dvds, they're the only fitness dvds I've ever been able to follow. They look simple enough but by god you feel it the next day!

Took the dds to soft play and I got nearly two hours peace before the tantrums started again Sat reading the first month of Mrs D is going without blog - I was reading on my phone so hopefully didn't look too weird :)

Faire I have two book recommendations for the long nights in. & Sons by Gilbert and Days of Abandonment by Ferrante.

Today's not going well at all, I want to dissapear I want to hide and not be found.

I know that feeling Im, I really do. Just breath a little. Can you tell me whats going on?

It's tough to put here on the board, but I'm knum with fear of him, I have not drank so its clearer tonight than normal.

What is his status with the police and restraining orders right now?

I don't have none right now, had a non mol in past, there's no bail conditions attached to him nothing

You have a lock on your door, you have a working phone. So long as you dont open the door to him you will be perfectly safe.

What is the update on a new place, Im?

I just want someone to be there and know I'm here that what I'd like that's comfort x

He has a key, I'm going to go to the housing office as soon as my dc are back to school on the Monday.

He has a key? Do the police know this? Can they move you to a hotel until the locks are changed?
Get a locksmith double quick tomorrow

Get down to the housing office tomorrow.

So long as you have a phone you are safe. Let the non-emergency line know the situation right now, make sure your phone is charged and dont be afraid to use it.

Phew, I've found you!
I knew this thread was here, just forgot what it was called and was looking in the wrong place
Hope you don't mind if I join you all, I'm awake at this ungodly hour, yet again, worrying about my drinking. I guess I have had issues for about 10 years now, drinking most days (couple of glasses, up to a bottle of wine, but more a couple of glasses). Got pregnant, stopped drinking, but since I gave up BF, it's become a problem again, in spite of me swearing to myself it wouldn't
I don't want to give up completely, I just want to get back to a couple of glasses, a couple of nights a week and I know I can sustain this, as I've done it before, it's just sticking to it!
But I just don't know where to start: I've been thinking about the underlying reasons for my drinking and I will mention it (again) to my therapist, whom I see every week, it's just the day to day surviving and getting over the "I need a drink" trigger points, I could do with some support with and any tips would be gratefully received

Thank you for reading

FFS here I am again at silly o'clock thinking 'why' on loads of levels. it was DD2 (10) birthday yesterday. her last party (double figures and parties stop) loads of kids (30) good time had by all.

My rant........ Xp (DDs Dad) left 3 years ago, no contact not even on Birthdays or Xmas day, why am I suprised but I still am - I just couldn't live with myself. How does he sleep at night?

Next - having birthday near Xmas is difficult, people forget, give joint present etc - DD got mainly money in her cards yesterday, hardly any presents - no thought put into it (I know I'm having a 'middle of the night' moan - at least she got presents I hear you say!!!)

And then 'me' I drank too much, not pissed right until the end (only few friends left) don't remember going to bed not a good look . Really pissed off with myself, let myself down, self-loathing etc. Hate it

So that's me - I need to do a serious length of AF days, got to get back on track.

Beaches no news on the house, this is majorly stressing me out, it's a waiting game (for a person with little patience, not a good situation) I am a Marian Keyes fan although that last book you mentioned didn't do it for me, not in the same way as some of her others (Watermelon, probably my fav)

Nuff I think it was you that mentioned looking for books to read? Have you tried Mandasu Heller (probably spelled wrong) she's like a Martina Cole, but based in Moss Side as opposed to East End - quite racey stuff, murder, gangster plots.

I'm darling know the feeling re no money, especially after yesterday for me

Welcome to all new Babes and Hello all Brave Babes. Apologies for my long rant and naval gazing xxx