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How often does he take rubbish out?

77 replies

Sunflowerlovefield · 09/12/2013 22:29

Hello All,
How often does does your partner take the rubbish out? 80% of the time I do this chore only because if I don't then the boyfriend will just leave it and pack it down and eventually will leave rubbish just lying around. It's totally yuck and I tell him so but then he says that I'm nagging Angry it's really unfair. He lives like a student and that bother as it feels like he's not respecting our place or me! Tell me your stories and lets compare numbers!

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Kirk1 · 10/12/2013 09:44

Most of the time. He has a different opinion than me of when a bin is full and tends to empty them before I think they're full. He also is usually the one who drags the bins round for the bin collection. The only one he won't touch is the food bin.

Peanate · 10/12/2013 09:44

We both do - if it needs taking out, then one of us does it. There are no boy/girl jobs here, we both just pitch in.

BeerTricksPotter · 10/12/2013 09:54

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JoinYourPlayfellows · 10/12/2013 09:56

100% after I ripped a couple of bags taking them out of the bin and spilt rubbish on the kitchen floor.

The best things for us is that our NEIGHBOUR puts out our bins for us. So we never need to remember what day is bin day (it's Wednesday, I try to remember so my neighbour doesn't see me walking around the house in the nip). :o

tinselhair · 10/12/2013 09:58

For some reason this is a symbolic issue for me!! I always remember my ex would never put it out, too lazy, determined to piss me off, etc, so I was struggling with 2 big wheelie bins when I was 9 months pregnant.
I now live alone, and just get on with it, of course. But when new dp told me quite soon after meeting him that he still puts his ex's bins out each week I was outraged! Brought back lots of feelings of being uncared for etc....!! Who'd have thought it over a small thing like the bins?!!

JoinYourPlayfellows · 10/12/2013 10:01

"But when new dp told me quite soon after meeting him that he still puts his ex's bins out each week I was outraged!"

I'm not surprised, that's pathetic.

You're not still with this loser, are you?

flipchart · 10/12/2013 10:10

He takes it every time it needs doing.
He puts the bins out on a Wednesday night as he is usually the last one home, so he pulls on to the drive and does it then.

Cleorapter · 10/12/2013 10:16

Whenever I ask him to. He does it more than me, mainly because when I'm on my way out I'm juggling two kids, where as he's by himself.

Shellywelly1973 · 10/12/2013 10:41

Very very rarely...

WiseSam · 10/12/2013 10:48

More often than me because I have more tolerance for piling stuff on top of an already full bin Blush I do do it when it really needs it though.

WiseSam · 10/12/2013 10:51

And with putting the bins on the street for collection, he does that 95% of the time because a) he's good at remembering things like that and b) he spends more time in the garage area, which presumably helps with a). I deal with compost though!

TinselinaBumSquash · 10/12/2013 10:52

Erm, he does it when it needs doing.... Just like I do funnily enough being as we're both grown ups and don't let our genitals dictate which household jobs we do.

Daykin · 10/12/2013 10:54

Rarely. It's only the kitchen bin which frequently gets taken out apart from bin day. If he put something in and it was full then he would take it out but he doesn't do much that would lead to him putting stuff in the bin.

bonkersLFDT20 · 10/12/2013 11:12

Sometimes me, sometimes him, sometimes the teenager. It's not something we really discuss.
I'd say he probably does more bin sorting (taking recycling out of house into outside bin), emptying the kitchen food caddy etc, while I'll empty the upstairs bins into the big kitchen bin because I'm up and down the stairs more, but as long as it gets done then no one's keeping score.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism · 10/12/2013 11:50

Is it that difficult a job?

I think its one of the easiest of the household chores.

Joysmum · 10/12/2013 12:05

I do it. My hubby works very long hours for us to be able to afford for me to be a SAHM. I ensure that I do all the things I can to ensure his time off is free from chores I can do and our family gets some decent quality time together as a family and a couple. He just does the stuff I can't go. It's fair.

If I worked full time doing as many hours out of the house as he did then household chores would be split accordingly.

Lifeisaboxofchocs · 10/12/2013 12:10

I leave it outside the front door, and as he comes back from work, he puts it in the bin. So I guess a joint effort.

oscarwilde · 10/12/2013 12:19

I do it 99% of the time. Bin day is on a Monday morning and I find it very cathartic to whizz around the house on a Sunday night finding and throwing out all the tons of crap that have accumulated around the place. You don't want to sit still too long in one place ! Grin

If DH did it, he'd just empty the kitchen bin and put the wheelie bins on the street. End of. So I weirdly rather enjoy putting the bins out.

samandi · 10/12/2013 12:19

Hardly ever, but that's because he works full-time and I work part-time, so most of the household stuff falls to me.

samandi · 10/12/2013 12:22

if I don't then the boyfriend will just leave it and pack it down and eventually will leave rubbish just lying around

That's pretty disgusting.

Twinklestein · 10/12/2013 12:36

100% of the time. Bins, recycling and charity shop runs is my husband's job. Not my department see.

PottedPlant · 10/12/2013 13:09

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DadOnIce · 10/12/2013 13:33

People seriously talk about "blue" and "pink" jobs? Jesus H fucking Christ on a bike. What year is this?

Take that one over to the feminist section, they'll have a field day...

Squitten · 10/12/2013 13:43

Hardly ever. I'm a SAHM so do it as part of my kitchen cleaning

muddylettuce · 10/12/2013 18:45

I do the toilets, he does the bins. I hate bins, weirdly I don't mind the toilets! X