Husband has become increasingly abusive, controlling and aggressive towards me since having money worries and the stress of a new business. He has threatened to take the children from me when his business starts doing well and leave me with nothing. Since September we have spent less time together due to exhaustion of working long hours and a big commute,we don't see much of each other but when we do we are both too tired and stressed to talk properly.He shouts at me and causes arguments over nothing. I'm worried that this atmosphere is damaging to the children and all I want for them is a loving environment . He has told me he wants me out of their lives because I don't do enough for him. I do pretty much everything.I've stopped being physical with him because I have shut off from him emotionally so he can't hurt me. He has started to make things up about me and has said he wants to destroy me. How can someone change like this? He admitted depression years ago and he still is depressed but he has said that he doesn't want to see a doctor because it will go on his record.he is stressed and is using me to vent his frustrations . Advice please.