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Embarassed, worried, aftermath of weekend violence

36 replies

galaxydefender82 · 06/12/2013 16:41

So, back in March I had a one night stand with a man, both single but very much out of character for me, A: because I'm a lesbian and B: I don't do one night stands.

Anyway, this guy turned out to be a bit of a sleeze.

Fast forward to last weekend, my friends and I were returning to my home from a night out, I live a few yards from town centre. One of my friends fell behind a little whilst on her phone but I waited outside.

She returned angry and upset that the guy I slept with had cornered her asking questions about me and got a bit "lairy".

I saw red and rang him, making it out I was inviting him to mine for a repeat of our one niight stand. When he arrived I pushed him up against the wall by the scruff of his neck and kneed him in the balls. I then threw a few light punches to his face, after that I fell and broke a leg.

My gf broke up the scuffle and he proceeded to tell her that I had been gagging for him and loved every minute. She pushed him away and told him to fuck off.

GF is fine, man walked away unscathed.

I apologised profusely to gf for putting her in that situation and she understood.

I don' really want to text guy as it took me ages to shake him off the first time.

I'm worried because he knows where I live although I don't THINK he would retaliate though.

Is there any way I can forgive myself for my grotesque actions? I would just like to add that I am not usually a violent person, I just care very dearly for this person. Feeling very down at the moment and yes, probably selfishly looking for justification

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XmasLogAndHollyOn · 06/12/2013 16:48

Woah.

He could quite rightly have you arrested for assault, but I suspect he won't. I don't know even where to begin with the rest, but no, there's no justification for what you did.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 06/12/2013 17:15

There isn't any justification is there? Being 'lairy' (sic) is no excuse. She wasn't in any immediate danger and neither were you. Sounds like you were pissed off that you'd slept with him and took your anger at yourself out on him. Deliberately luring a man into a trap so that you can assault him makes you a criminal. The broken leg seems to be fair payback in the circumstances. Disgusting.

Sleepyhoglet · 06/12/2013 17:24

Ouch, how embarrassing.

ElkTheory · 06/12/2013 17:38

Of course there is no justification for your actions. The man would be well within his rights to report you for assaulting him. The fact that you planned it, luring him to your house under false pretenses, makes it even worse than a sudden outburst of rage, IMO.

maras2 · 06/12/2013 18:15

I'd say this if even the sexes were reversed ' You need locking up ' The fact that you sound almost proud of your little plot to comit such an act of violence makes it worse.However I've a feeling that this thread will go Pfft soon.

EirikurNoromaour · 06/12/2013 18:17

Wtf? You're a thug.

Ifcatshadthumbs · 06/12/2013 18:18

Wow Shock sorry but you sound like a bit of a psycho. You lured him to your house on a promise so you could assault him? What exactly constitutes a "light punch" by the way?

Monetbyhimself · 06/12/2013 18:22

Make mine meat and potato. I thought you lot had got bored by now ?

HankyScore · 06/12/2013 18:32

Righty oh dear.

InTheRedCorner · 06/12/2013 18:39

Is there any way I can forgive myself for my grotesque actions?

No

thenightsky · 06/12/2013 18:42

You fell over and broke your leg??

ahahahhaha

Lweji · 06/12/2013 18:52

Yes, never mind he showing up. I'd be worried about the police showing up, unless he's too ashamed of being punched by a woman.

Lweji · 06/12/2013 18:54

I'd also be worrying about the grotesque post. Fell and broke a leg, really?

veee123 · 06/12/2013 18:54

You seem like a participant for the Jeremy kyle show.

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WankingInAWinterWonderland · 06/12/2013 19:21

Was there a point to this post then? Confused

Pollydingdonmerrilyonhigh · 06/12/2013 19:26
Biscuit
CatchesTheNightTrain · 06/12/2013 19:28

I'll have a meat & potatoe pie please

NorksAreMessy · 06/12/2013 19:29
Hmm
Socrates91 · 06/12/2013 19:37

I'm a lesbian and honey we don't have one-night stands with men. You are

definitely bisexual and I can't help but feel sorry for your girlfriend. You need to be honest about your sexuality with her and acknowledge that you are attracted to men. Although, I hope she sees that already now.

tribpot · 06/12/2013 19:39

I'd report yourself to the police. Before he does.

thenightsky · 06/12/2013 19:39

What's with the meat and potato pie references? Confused

rainbowfeet · 06/12/2013 19:43

You're scary!!!Shock

mineofuselessinformation · 06/12/2013 19:44

I prefer marmite tbh.