STBXH wants me back yet..

[NickysMam]

I responded to a thread a long time ago about how horrible and unhappy I was living with my in laws and how I was mistreated and made to feel like a slave and how STBXH supported the abuse I endured, so I left back in October.

I haven't spoken to him since he called me to tell me that no one would be interested in me with two children. So last night he called me on a new number begging me back.

But then he decided to give me conditions should I wish to return.. no really, he did.

I thought I'd share them so we can all have a good laugh at how much of a d*head he really is!!

1. He told me that anything "disrespectful" that I do towards him (Not doing as he asks without questioning. Disagreeing with him. Rudeness while performing my role as a good wife), he will give it back to me "ten fold".

2. He also said that he will not let me make any decisions as "all the decisions you've made has put us in problems and I'm not taking it anymore" one decision he mentioned was accepting my parents help and "undermining his authority as my husband" even though it benefited him more than me.

3. His family take precedence over mine and if his aunty tells me to do something, whether I am tired or not, I should do it.

4. I should call his family members at least twice a week (he hasn't spoken to my parents since June)

5. I don't get a say in DC2's name as he hates the name we chose for DS as he felt "bullied into it" Despite the fact that he chose it months before we even conceived him.

6. He will cut down the household allowance since he is being "bullied" into getting our own place (he lives with his uncle and aunty and DC2 is due in March so he expected the four of us to live there forever it seems) and so any "luxuries can be forgotten"

7. "I expect you to do all the housework and the childcare. I'm the provider so I'm exempt"

8. "When you go back to work, I expect you to pay half the household bills and take care of the children's needs with your pay"

9. I'm expected to send a Christmas card to his family. Again, no mention of mine.

10. "Call my aunty tomorrow and show some respect. You haven't called them since you left, you're so ungrateful."

I responded with "Thank you for giving me the opportunity to get back with you, the prospect sounds really exciting! I will get back to you as soon as a decision is made"

Blocked.

Feel disgusted in myself for getting with him in the first place. Oh well, at least I have my children out of this.

Is he perhaps suffering from delusions that he is a Roman Emperor?

Jesus wept. I have no words, apart from WELL DONE FOR GETTING OUT! Onwards and upwards!

Wow he sounds like such a catch How could you resist an offer like that?

Love your reply. Exactly what I was going to suggest.

If you ever feel lonely or tired, read that list and think how much worse life could be!

Congratulations on your escape!

Great reply!
The man is seriously delusional.

Well done for getting away from that head wreck.

Absolutely speechless.
I remember your post.
So pleased you are still away from theom.
Keep him blocked forever.
Good luck for the future - you so deserve it!
And a big cheer from me!
Well done!

I can't believe you're turning him down!

Your reply OP is pure class.

I would not have been so restrained or articulate.

He sounds like such a catch, form an orderly queue laydeezz.

Is he on something?

Wow, OP. I'm sure you are delighted to have that he is giving you the opportunity to make amends and return to him. Just in case you are a bit silly and turn him down, please let us have his contact details. I'm sure there will be lots of us who would love to get together with such a charming, reasonable and generous man.

What an arse!

Don't you feel tempted to create an online dating profile based on those pearls and show the amount of replies to him?

At www.mysinglefriend.com

I remember when you last spoke about him.

I didn't like him then, can't possibly think why you are turning him down now

Good luck for the future x

Lweji

I take you are packing and looking forward to the reconcilliation ! Haha ! Affirmation if ever it was needed that you made the right choice .
What a twat!

You are awesome - that reply was perfect! And don't ever feel disgusted with yourself, sometimes it's very hard to see the wood for the trees (or the d*head in this case ).

Wow, what a catch. Can I have his number?

Wow, that is truly hilarious! He must really think he is a wonderful catch.

Great reply.

I'm actually quite scared that he is going to find some vulnerable new girlfriend and fuck with her head for years. He sounds HORRENDOUS.

Your reply could only have been topped by 'sorry who is this?'

shudder

What a charmer. He is obviously related in some way to my ex that told me the day after the wedding "Now that we're married, you need to understand that I'm the man in the house and what I say goes. When I tell you to do something, you say yes dear and go do it." Needless to say, it didn't last long.

Alice. And when you'd picked yourself off the floor from laughing so hard...?

Brilliant response, OP. You sound like you've gained a lot of strength in the short time you've been away from him.

wow what a hard decision to make..

why couldn't I meet a man like that? A catch indeed not

Well done for getting away from this OP

Standing ovation for NickysMam

Charlotte I should have just packed up that day, but stupid me took a bit longer as I thought I'd just misunderstood what he said. It all comes back to "when they tell you who they are, you need to LISTEN."

OP - if that's him begging, I'd hate to see demanding. Glad you're well out of it now.