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Your take on this text message please

47 replies

Daisycat22 · 04/12/2013 21:40

So I get chatting to a guy on an internet dating site, communicating via email, text and over the phone.

He's very polite, seems mature etc. so I was happy to meet up with him.

When we meet he is still very nice, polite, not leering, sexual or anything like that and seems to genuinely want a relationship (we met twice for drinks/dinner)

We arrange to meet for the 3rd time and he said he would cook dinner, so we text the day before finalising arrangements and we end on what time I would meet him.

Fast forward later that night and I receive a text message from him at 11:30pm just saying "Bring your sexy self"

I immediately think that's odd he's never been like that with me and its just so random about 1 minute later he send another message saying "tomorrow and I hope you have had a good night...hope the first text wasn't too much...good night"

I send one back saying was that first message meant for me and he says "thought you might think that which is why I apologised...I was thinking of you in anticipation of tomorrow, so yes it was meant for you"

I didn't see him as my instinct tells me that doesn't seem right, what do you think?

P.S He took himself off the dating website before we met up (if that makes any difference)

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InTheFace · 04/12/2013 21:45

Sorry, I think it was meant for someone else. The gap between the text deciding timing and 11.30 kind of gives him away...

Sorry.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 04/12/2013 21:45

I wouldn't have a problem with that text at all. He thinks you're sexy, what's the problem?

Pricklypearshaped · 04/12/2013 21:48

I don't think it was meant for someone else. I think he'd maybe had a drink, felt like sending a sexy text and then worried that he'd overstepped the mark and you'd think he was a sleaze.

youbethemummylion · 04/12/2013 21:49

Dont think 1st message was meant for you, sorry.

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism · 04/12/2013 21:52

Hmm, not sure, but leaning towards it being for someone else unless, unless your last text said something about bringing stuff?

BluePeterAdventCrown · 04/12/2013 21:52

I would have read it that he thinks you ARE Sexy and they he did double think and worries if he over did it. I would n't over think it tbh. I would meet him the next time and see how it goes.

TheCrumpetQueen · 04/12/2013 21:53

Are you exclusive yet?

EllieInTheRoom · 04/12/2013 21:54

Hard to say without knowing the wording of your last text...?

mammadiggingdeep · 04/12/2013 21:56

Going on what you said I think it was for someone else.

You say you ended on a time to meet...then he said 'bring your sexy self'...doesn't really follow on...

Enidnoelslaw · 04/12/2013 21:57

It's a reply to someone saying 'should I bring anything?'
If you did t say that then it wasn't meant for you.

Cutitup · 04/12/2013 21:58

It sounds like it was for you. He couldn't have been meeting someone else on the same night, could he? Unless it was a 'booty call?'

Even so, you're not exclusive yet, are you?

How did you handle cancelling the date?

If you like him enough for a third date, you should see him again. Just think, this could be one of the funny stories you regale your guests with at the wedding!

Jengnr · 04/12/2013 22:00

Third date, he wants a shag.

lackingimagination · 04/12/2013 22:00

I think it was for someone else. The fact he has then (poorly) tried to cover it up would be enough for me to say goodbye even if you're not exclusive. Sorry.

Jengnr · 04/12/2013 22:04

He just sounds a bit inept at flirting/ramping up the sexy talk.

It's the sort of thing my H would have said prior to us getting it on. He is/was useless with women. Bless him. :)

Curlysuewhataboutyou · 04/12/2013 22:05

Sounds like it was for someone else. It's common practice for internet daters to date a few people at once, especially if they want sex. So if it were me I'd give him a miss, like you said it dosent tally with the picture he was painting of himself & it was only two dates not exactly time to think about relationships or sexting.

bluebirdwsm · 04/12/2013 22:07

I also think the first text was for someone else. You had ended your texting earlier so it didn't flow from that.

Second text was him thinking he'd sent to you by mistake and that he had to cover up somehow - and didn't do a very good job.

Upcycled · 04/12/2013 22:07

He tried to cover up too much on the second text so I think he was expecting someone else tonight.

And if I was in your shoes and the txt was indeed for me, I wouldn't like it, because in my opinion, if he wants to take the dates to the next level it was a bad choice of strategy. You are already going to your house and he is cooking for you so is up to him to create a romantic and sexy atmosphere.

Did he ever call you sexy before?

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 04/12/2013 22:08

I'd say it was for you. He was testing waters/ trying his luck.

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Daisycat22 · 04/12/2013 22:09

Thanks for your replies.

The last message was from him saying "Ok see you tomorrow, have a good day" this was sent at 2pm the the "bring your sexy self" was sent by him at 11:30 that night, so he wasn't replying to anything, our conversation had ended.

It seems like a message for another woman really.

He's not seeing anyone else (so he says) and he took himself off the dating website when we first spoke and I'm not in contact with any other men.

He's probably a player Sad

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waltermittymissus · 04/12/2013 22:10

Don't think he would have sent the second text if the first had been meant for you!

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Daisycat22 · 04/12/2013 22:10

He doesn't drink (so not drunk) and he's never been like that at all with me thats what seemed so odd

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Bigfingers · 04/12/2013 22:11

sounds like a reply to someone else's question of 'what shall I bring'. ... The wording of the second text is a bit dubious...

Ifcatshadthumbs · 04/12/2013 22:14

I don't think the text was meant for you either. It sounds like a reply to a text he's received from someone. Particularly as his last text to you ended with have a good day.

SanityClause · 04/12/2013 22:16

Hmm, yes, under those circumstances, it does sound like it was meant for someone else.

Look on the bright side, though, you haven't wasted much of your life on him.

Fairenuff · 04/12/2013 22:16

That message was meant for someone else. He had a good go at covering up but it just doesn't ring true.

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