It's my birthday today and it's been awful

[CatAmongThePigeons]

It's my birthday, DH lost his temper with DS1 this morning for not finishing his medicine and is now playing the blame game (I'm sorry but...). I woke up to DS1 sobbing unconsolably.

He said he's unhappy (but he's denying it now), I'm not happy. I'm sick of this.

I've not even had cards because of this.

I know it's not much but I've spent most of today crying because I can't do this any more. I can't pretend I'm happy.

Sorry to see you are having a crap time.

Happy birthday from me anyway. Have you got a friend you can go and see this evening and try to enjoy the rest of it?

no card no nothiing GO AND SHOUT AT HIM

Thank you. I haven't any friends who I could pop in to see this evening.

There are cards and gifts which were supposed to have been opened this morning, but due to arguments never did.

'D'h threatened DS1 with not being able to give me his gift so I promised him I would wait. And waiting I am...

Well firstly Happy Birthday !

To be honest your OP is a little confusing but you sound sad and no there are no excuses for not having at least a card for your birthday.

What excuse does he have ?

Happy Birthday . Is what you describe a normal kind of day in your house? Have things been going wrong for a while?

Happy birthday and and because it sounds like you need it.

Happy birthday

Is your DS young enough that he was excited at the prospect of your birthday, and giving you gifts? If so, that's a pretty mean DH you have there. And to shout at poorly DS.

If I could magically make a birthday card, flowers, chocolates and birthday cake appear on your table this very moment, I would, in great profusion! One special day each year isnt a lot to ask, is it. Hope the evening might be salvaged - but thousands of mumsnetters are singing Happy Birthday to you!

Happy Birthday!

Hope things improve soon.

Happy birthday! Cake is the solution...

Thank you for the birthday wishes, they honestly have meant a lot. DS1 is 7 and birthdays are a big deal to him, he had been so excited. I was really angry with H for saying that to DS1.

We are rowing more and more and I'm noticing DH apologise and say 'but you did such and such' so it's not an apology at all. He said I'm never happy. Which is true as I'm really not.

I feel awful as the DC witnessed a blazing row as I got so angry with H for not bothering to think or show he cares.

Happy birthday and make yourself a promise you are going to treat yourself to a get-it-off-your-chest rant to either rl friends or MNers very soon.
What is bringing you down?

For now, and hope the DCs get to hug you and see you open your cards and presents.

Wishing you a Happy Birthday!

It sounds like you and your husband need to have a calm and honest chat about the state of your relationship. Maybe not today though.

I hope you can brush aside your worries for a bit and enjoy the evening.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Hope you have a lovely evening, and that things improve for you.

And happy birthday from me too! I hope you get your cards and pressies. And next year, put a plan in place, organise something special for the day.

It does sound like you need to talk to dh and also drill down as to why you're unhappy, but do that another day. Wish I could send you some !

Happy Birthday CaTP I really feel for you. Perhaps time to make yourself a deadline that this time next year you won't be feeling so unhappy. I would make a list and start working on it ASAP with item 1 being a very open and honest chat about what isn't going right.
Here have more

I wish you more happiness today than you have had, so Happy Birthday wishes from me too. I hope your evening has some good moments.

It is unforgiveable for your H to take out his frustration, anger and internal feelings on your DS, especially at the age he is and knowing how excited he was about your birthday. How can someone tread on a little boys feelings like that, and crush his spontaneity and happiness on his mums special day? Just spiteful - as he has been to you.

I think so many people take birthday celebrations for granted. In life there are diseases, cancer, illness and disability...traffic accidents, freak accidents, floods, fires, plane crashes...etc. To live another year is an achievement...it's plenty to celebrate. To wish someone many more of the same is hoping they will stay safe and well and happy in the coming year/s.

Is that too much for you to expect from the person who purports to love you? Your son has the right spirit anyway.

Happy birthday I'm sorry today has been rubbish hopefully next years might be better? Hope things get better

Sorry you've had a shitty day
Happy Birthday and many

Happy birthday. Drinking a cuppa and toasting you birthday wishes...

Hope your evening gets better...

Happy Birthday from me.You've seemed so upbeat and happy on the Chistmas board,it's a shame to see you so sad today.Best wishes.

Happy Birthday. Do you want to tell us more. There are some lovely people on here ready to give advice if you need it. I hope the day improves for you.

big slice of for you

He wouldn't be the first man to figure that shouting at you in front of DCs you will automatically back down so as not to upset them. Clearly not something you'd usually expose them to so please don't blame yourself. Another time you won't be caught off guard.

Any chance of talking with H elsewhere if you can get a babysitter this week?

Happy birthday.