Pathetic, perverted and abusive excuse for a man, and I am done with him!

[lulu1971]

That sums is up really. I'm sick and tired of it all.

I don't normally post on here but last week someone posted about her partner taking naked photos without her consent and it struck a nerve. I found myself posting about my situation and since then I have thought about nothing else.

My story is long and spans the last 3 years. It involves his disgusting use of porn, his fetishes and him posting naked photos of me on a dating site and conversing with men, pretending to be me. The explicit nature of those messages was disgraceful and If I hadn't found out, purely by chance I imagine he would still be doing it.

That along with the emotional abuse and the nastiness has killed any feelings I once had for him. He talks to me like dirt, treats me like shit and I'm done with him.

I'm exhausted, fed up and feel like a fool. I really need a kick up the backside to get away. I know life would be better without him but I don't know why I can't bring myself to leave.

It doesn't help that I have 2 children from my marriage ( he had an affair after being happily together for 16 years, left me with a 4 year old and 9 month old as he realised family life wasn't what he thought it would be). I have also had a child with this poor excuse for a man.

What kind of man puts his partner on a dating site while she is busy caring for their 6 week old baby and critically ill mother who was on life support? A I said earlier in my post there is so much more to my story but I can't bring myself to write it all down.

I want out of here by the spring, just got to figure out how!

[ILoveGlyfada]

Hope everything works out well for you. Do you have somewhere to go to?

[Veins]

Well done lulu he sounds like a supreme arsehole. Have you got somewhere to go?

[cardiandcrocs]

Holding your hand tightly. Well done you!

[SolidGoldBrass]

Best of luck. It all starts improving from this moment.

[lulu1971]

I am going to my family for a while then when my tenants are out we will go back to my house. I am a mess.

[minniemagoo]

Well done for coming this far, hope you have a safe place to go. Please continue to post for support, people are here for you

[MacFleetwood]

Sending you loads of virtual hugs and hand holding.

XXXX

[minniemagoo]

xpost. Glad your family are there for you. It WILL be worth it.

[Trollsworth]

Keep us updated honey

[RhinosAreFatUnicorns]

Well done for taking that step. Have you somewhere to go?

[JustGrrrrrreat]

If you were a mess you would be putting up with it. The fact you are going shows how strong you are!

[samlamb]

Here to hold your hand

[lulu1971]

I don't feel very strong at all. But I can't and won't live my life like this any longer. I don't recognise myself any more and my beloved boys deserve better. So do I!! So much has happened since I last posted and none of it is pretty.

[NotALondoner]

Well done. It will be difficult short term but not as difficult as staying. Read this thread and remind yourself of what he is like, and come on here in your weak moments and ask for help.

[WhotheWhat]

Let's call it late spring and job done.
Good for you for taking control back. Xx

[myroomisatip]

Here to cheer you on. Onwards and upwards. You are strong and you are brave and you have finally seen the light at the end of the tunnel.

Good luck

[Anomaly]

You're doing the right thing. Please keep posting for support. Call the police if your dick of an expartner does anything untoward.

[pictish]

Keep on keeping on OP. Cheering you on here!
Spill if you want to. xx

[Rissolesfortea]

Wow, well done you! Wishing you all the best for the future for you and your boys, your life is about to get so much better, put the past and this creep behind you and finally enjoy your new life.

[eeyore125]

Good for for for being strong.

[EhricLovesTheBhrothers]

Amazing. Wishing you strength and fortitude. You will be so much happier when you have done it.

[lulu1971]

Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement. I certainly need them right now!

[Mabelface]

You're absolutely doing the right thing. Your life is going to be so much happier.

[lulu1971]

I will come back later and explain events leading up to this. I need to write it down somewhere so that on bad days when I feel weak I can come back to this and remind myself of all he's done. In the meantime more packing! Thank you everyone x

[lulu1971]

I will come back later and explain events leading up to this. I need to write it down somewhere so that on bad days when I feel weak I can come back to this and remind myself of all he's done. In the meantime more packing! Thank you everyone x