Do you ever tell the next woman ?

[pookyandponky]

Simply that really.
Do you even tell the next woman he's a lying cheating b***d?

Well you might do, but she's not going to believe you. Not until it happens to her.

What if you can show her the evidence?

She'll believe she's different...... Mutual friends or acquaintances have more sway

no because people can change

No. Act indifferent and don't bother. She would probably just think you are a crank and not believe it.

I suppose I wouldn't want to be made a fool of and don't want her to be either.

Of course you can try, but she'll never believe you. Ever.

Tempting as it is, I wouldn't. What would it achieve for you?

Maintain your dignity pooky and move on to a happier place,

There's no point, it just makes you look bitter and still in love with him.

You think you have her best interests - she will think you are trying to break them up because you want him back.

As said before maintain dignity and not get involved at all. The new woman will be seeing all the things you saw in him when you first met, he is now on best behaviour and has probably already said to her that you are trying to break them up to get him back.

It is hard because they may do all the same things to them as they did to you. But if you met somone new who seemed wonderful and perfect but they told you they had a crazy ex and then she came along saying things, there is always going to be doubt and lots of people stick by their new man as they have not seen that behaviour yet so you look like the crazy ex they have described.

No. Everyone deserves a fresh start. Everyone.

Sorry, I agree that you would appear to be the crazy ex. Think what your reaction would have been if your predecessor had given you the warning.

Not your business love. MOVE on with your life.

Have a bit of dignity. Leave well alone.

No. People behave and act differently in different situation and with different people. She deserves the opportunity to have a 'clean' start without a shadow of his past mistakes.

It is SOOOOOOO tempting. And I have done it. I kidded myself it was to warn / protect her. But looking back now, it was to punish him. Not a nice motive. And I regret it now. Don't do it

ohtobe
Well done for getting into just one post:
victim blaming ('different people' will not get the same treatment),
entitlement ('deserves' for 'she', read, the cheater)
and

denial ('mistakes' )
OP, telling the new partner is unhealthy in all the ways people say
you will be labelled a bitter nutter (see some posts above)
it will not help you move on
in situations like this, if we are honest, motives are never entirely if at all altruistic

I have an email all prepped and ready to go to new girlfriend. I keep reading and thinking what would I feel
If it was me ? I haven't sent it, yet.

Oh and it's not bitchy - not listing behaviours etc, just a brief 'look after yourself and your kids ' type thing.

I'm still sitting on it.

A little bit different but the lass who took on my ex I warned her about him (sociopath) but of course I was the utter cunt who kicked him out at the time and the unreasonable one for treating him so badly. I've tried again since but she's terrified of what he will do and she just can't get him out.. I've even told her how to get him out but she won't. She's a shell of herself on ADs now. He treats her worse than he treated me.

I could have done hand springs however when she took him on... just like she will when she sees the light.

Cheating and whatnot I wouldn't bother.. they'll never believe you or think it won't happen to them.

Not unless she's at risk in some way (he's either going to hurt her or has a serious STD). Otherwise no way!

Actually yes I hadn't thought of that, for an STD I might do, if the man had had unprotected sex with me without telling me.

But otherwise, leave them alone. For all you know, the new girlfriend is running several men in tandem herself. Delete that email and ring a friend to go and do something nice instead.

That lovely song, sung by Eartha Kit, Apres Moi www.doob.fm/#!/music/Eartha+Kitt/_/Apres+Moi

My ex cheated on me for over two years. The OW had no idea she was the OW. Even when presented with clear facts and evidence she still chose to believe him, and that I was a liar :)

Don't bother I say!

No, dont do it.

I once had my exes GF sobbing in my kitchen at midnight after he dumped her. Never once did I bad mouth him, I just made her a cup of tea and advised her to go home and try to move on.

A while later he found out and was utterly gobsmacked - apparently she told him she couldnt believe how nice I was