Highs and Lows of Bodybuilder Dating - All BB Partners, Squat Here!

[entersandmum]

Being in a relationship with a bodybuilder can be absolutely wonderful, it can also be bloody hard work, especially if you are not one yourself.

If anyone would like to discuss some of the many topics that crop up such as:

Diet - Do you eat the same? Astronomically high shopping bills?
Gym time - Do you enjoy those hours to yourself or wish he wouldn't go?
Moods - Usually linked to diet, but also can be psychological.
Steroids / Growth - Is DP honest enough to admit he does it? Are you concerned? Infertility?
Protein - And all the wonderful scents that it produces.
Perception - Does DP worry they are not big enough? Do people assume DP is aggressive / violent?
Attractiveness - Do others assume DP is fair game to be touched / felt up? How do you feel about this?

I've probably missed a few topics but general chat is welcome to highlight this. Please no BB bashing, I know its not for everyone This thread is for those in or thinking of having a relationship with a BB. Men and women welcome.

I teeter on the brink of vegan and it fucks me off that he buys cheap meat and eggs. I don't actually have too much of an ethical problem with meat/dairy in theory - but I hate factory farming. I should buy him a live fucking chicken for xmas!

I'm really happy my husband does this. I have an extremely time-consuming hobby myself (horses), so it makes me feel a lot less guilty!

Why do people comment on threads they have no interest in personally, only to post insulting comments?

Jasmine, some people post 'insulting' messages because it can be quite cathartic on an anonymous board after a negative experience.

OP. It was a combination of BB and the man involved. His weight training became a physical symbol for the oppression I was forced to live under whilst with him. For every 10 punches that hit a piece of gym equipment, 3 would hit a random man in the pub who looked at me the 'wrong' way, and one would hit me.

This had nothing to do with his 'dedication' to BB. I couldn't give a rats arse about a time consuming hobby. Your relationship should never be your hobby. In fact, I preferred him to be at the gym - I wouldn't get smacked if he wasn't in the house.

What I'm trying to say, is that my experience of BB has been forever tarred and I've no interest in dating one again. Probably mostly the mans fault - but it was a tool used to physically show that I was the weaker, subservient one between us, and I've no plans to walk into that situation again - even with a 'good' man - because it will just remind me of the last time. Since, I've looked for different relationship 'structures' Iyswim?

I wasn't referring to you Arcadian.
There seems to be a lot of generalising and stereotyping on this board. I'm sorry that you've experienced a violent relationship but this isn't synonymous with BB generally. My partner is the gentlest man I know, in the past I have experienced horrid violence from an ex who'd never set foot in a gym...

I must admit I find very muscular men attractive ...although my partner is well muscled but not huge. I find many women are attracted in the same way as I am but will not admit it unless they have had a couple of wines.

I am that BB

My partner comes to the gym with me - a lot, we train together - different weights though.

I live in England now, near a great market (1 kilo of sirloin - 10 quid, 1 kilo of chicken breast - 5 quid) and all the usual cheap veg...

The smells.... my poor partner.

The body dysmorphia - I am so skinny and weak (except am not - I just think I am - or see my self that way)

The moods - only if I cant get to the gym, then its not moods - more guilt....